DontWorryBHappy Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 (edited) I found out that statement is pretty darn true..... I met a guy a couple days ago and have had a great time with him. The first time we met we exchanged numbers and he invited me out with him that same day. During casual conversation he found out that I didn't have a boyfriend and asked me out right away (pretty new for me... not used to a guy being THAT direct!). I wasn't sure about how I felt yet so I joked with him and said "Maybe if I still like you by the end of the night!". He was cool with that and we continued the evening. It was really fun and we went our separate ways when the night was over. Next day we hung out again. He was open to doing whatever it was that I wanted to do. Between the two days he had bought me several drinks, cooked with me,taught me a new dance, played board games with me, and bought me dinner. That second evening we went to a club with some of his friends and danced the night away. I dont like to grind dance very much - I actually dance for real at clubs and he was totally into it. By the time that night was over we were both pretty tipsy/a little drunk (ok, I was drunk). He asked if I wanted us to go back to our own places or if I wanted to come over. I opted to come over (despite me wanting to take things slow). We fooled around for a bit and talked some, didnt do full on sex because I wouldnt have wanted to do that and because I was on my period. He seemed pretty content with being with me and verbally expressed that... He actually told me that he just liked having me there whether we did anything or not (wow!). The next morning I woke up and he had cooked me breakfast... an egg and cheese sandwich with orange juice. He was very open about how much he liked me, and when I expressed wanting to slow things down physically he seemed to have no problem with that at all. He actually said, "Ok, we can avoid the alcohol and stay away from the bed for now.. I'll take you to my studio where I paint and we can go to the lake, go kayaking, etc.." I actually asked him straight out what he wanted with me and he immediately said he wanted to be with me and really liked me - he wanted a relationship. I was open about the fact that I havent figured out what I want yet and would simply like to keep getting to know him and he was cool with it. But I guess the point of this thread is, when a guy is into you all the signs will be there. He will go the extra mile for you, open every door for you (whenever I've been with him I dont open any doors), he WONT let you pay for anything, he'll be the one to text YOU first, he'll make it known that he likes you, and if he truly does like you jumping into bed isnt gonna scare him off. It's pretty clear to me now that theres not much I couldve done to turn him off of me (aside from acting like a jerk or something, which I'm not). He decided that he liked me that was it. So maybe there ARE some guys out there who will decide that a girl is "too easy" if they jump in bed right away. But hey, those guys are hypocrites. Edited September 19, 2010 by DontWorryBHappy
a_woman Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 it's way too early to conclude that he is into you. He obviously wants a relationship which is a good start but you may find out a month or two down the line that you are not compatible. Two dates only count as 'wishful thinking'
Author DontWorryBHappy Posted September 19, 2010 Author Posted September 19, 2010 Ya, I have no clue what will come of it and am not really worrying about that at all. I was just saying that if a guy is into it you'll know it and he wont be scared away because you fooled around with him "too soon".
Star Gazer Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 It's only been a couple days. I hardly think you can conclude anything yet. Plus, you didn't have sex... I suspect it would be very different if you had.
waynebrady Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 he'll be the one to text YOU first Yeah but if the woman never initiates contact then I'm going to assume she is not that into me and just move on. It should be 50/50 or close to it, if a woman is intrested she should initiate contact by texts and phone calls as much as the man.
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