should i?

[d_d85]

[sIZE=3][FONT=Calibri]Since the last time I logged on here, I stopped seeing the guy I was dating for two months in the summer. I decided to cut ties with him because I was getting hurt- since he was not ready to commit.

we were both very mature about it and he understood completely why I could not see him anymore. Even though we were both a bit sad about not seeing each other, it was for the best. I hadn’t seen him for two months, or spoken to him, even though when I cut ties with him I did say we can still be friends and he said he would like that very much. A couple of days ago, I went back to the bar where we met, I knew I would see him because that is also where he works. My friends and I really like going there, but hadn’t gone back in a while because I didn’t want to see him and get feelings again. But I gave in to my temptation and went- also because I thought “why should I stop going to a place my friends and I like going to just because of a guy?” Nevertheless, we went, and I saw him, and all my feelings came back. He looked very happy to see me, as did I. It was like nothing changed, we flirted a bit, he gave me free drinks, and he was looking at me all night. I really miss him- and I’m wondering if I should start seeing him again, maybe just be friends, regardless I’m sad he isn’t in my life because he is a really great guy, but just not ready to commit. I know if I start seeing him again I will develop feelings again and nothing will be different since it has only been two months since we stopped seeing each other. I’m sure he is still not looking for a relationship. I just miss him [/FONT]L[FONT=Calibri] Should I try to have him be a part of my life again, and just deal with it, not get physically involved, or at least try not to, and just see where it goes from there? [/FONT][/sIZE]

[a_woman]

you know the answer to your question. he can't give you what you need, you must move on. there are plenty of bars around, there is no reason why you should be visiting that particular one. staying friends with someone you have feelings for when they are likely to hurt you is a terrible idea. how will you feel when you see him with another woman?