flow15 Posted September 18, 2010 Posted September 18, 2010 How can I be a girl who is fun, interesting and challenges a man and who keeps things interesting? I am fun and fairly interesting, but don't know how to make myself more interesting/appealing and how to challenge a guy or to communicate with challenging questions? Can anyone give me some pointers? When I date a guy I want to keep the relationship fresh and interesting and keep his interests so he doesn't get bored.
BentSpine Posted September 18, 2010 Posted September 18, 2010 Find someone you don't have to feel insecure about how to act with, someone you can relax with. People like it when other's are curious about them and their interests. Wouldn't you ask female friends questions to show you're interested in their life? It works for men and women alike. In general, you don't hold the power to make a particular person (hottie) feel this or that way about you. Right now you want to know X, since you believe that if you do X a man won't find you boring and leave you. But there are no guarantees.
Distant78 Posted September 18, 2010 Posted September 18, 2010 How can I be a girl who is fun, interesting and challenges a man and who keeps things interesting? I am fun and fairly interesting, but don't know how to make myself more interesting/appealing and how to challenge a guy or to communicate with challenging questions? Can anyone give me some pointers? When I date a guy I want to keep the relationship fresh and interesting and keep his interests so he doesn't get bored. One thing most men don't like when being with a woman is a lot of challenges. We men like to keep things simple. Try to be who you are and the right one will come to you. You don't need to challenge a guy to keep him interested. That's more of a turn-off.
GooseChaser Posted September 18, 2010 Posted September 18, 2010 The main thing I can think of is reward him for showing interest in you. When he shows interest, respond positively, and when he doesn't, act less interested yourself.
waynebrady Posted September 18, 2010 Posted September 18, 2010 One thing most men don't like when being with a woman is a lot of challenges. We men like to keep things simple. Try to be who you are and the right one will come to you. You don't need to challenge a guy to keep him interested. That's more of a turn-off. Yep, I couldn't agree more. If a woman is a gonna make me jump through hoops to get her then **** her, simple as that. I got better things to do than to pursue a woman who plays games, women who do that are not relationship material.
waynebrady Posted September 18, 2010 Posted September 18, 2010 The main thing I can think of is reward him for showing interest in you. When he shows interest, respond positively, and when he doesn't, act less interested yourself. It shouldn't all be about the man showing intrest. The woman has to show intrest as well by putting in effort, initiating contact, setting up dates etc etc. If I'm always the one doing those things then I'm going to move on. The woman has to show as much intrest in me as I show in her.
GooseChaser Posted September 18, 2010 Posted September 18, 2010 It shouldn't all be about the man showing intrest. The woman has to show intrest as well by putting in effort, initiating contact, setting up dates etc etc. If I'm always the one doing those things then I'm going to move on. The woman has to show as much intrest in me as I show in her. My scenario assumes that the woman will contribute an equal amount of interest and effort. She just shows more interest in the man when he shows more interest in her.
Mike B. Posted September 18, 2010 Posted September 18, 2010 It shouldn't all be about the man showing intrest. The woman has to show intrest as well by putting in effort, initiating contact, setting up dates etc etc. If I'm always the one doing those things then I'm going to move on. The woman has to show as much intrest in me as I show in her. I agree wholeheartedly. The woman has to show a lot of interest to keep a man's interest. Generally, being challenging doesn't work with men. Men follow the path of least resistance. If we have a woman who is playing hard to get or being challenging on one hand and on the other we have a woman showing interest and inviting us out to do stuff, it is no mystery who we will be spending most of our time with. The one that resist us less will win. It's just like those nature films where the lion goes after the calf that is limping.
xpaperxcutx Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 You don't need to make a man "jump through hoops" for you, but you need to make sure that if you do date a man, don't make him a priority until he has made you one. Half the time when women date, they forget they have a life outside of men.
Distant78 Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 You don't need to make a man "jump through hoops" for you, but you need to make sure that if you do date a man, don't make him a priority until he has made you one. Half the time when women date, they forget they have a life outside of men. Same can be said for these men. Couldn't agree more.
D-Lish Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 The main thing I can think of is reward him for showing interest in you. When he shows interest, respond positively, and when he doesn't, act less interested yourself. You know what Goose? Great summation! Kinda says it all in a nutshell....Great insight.
BentSpine Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 , don't make him a priority until he has made you one.That is expecting some behaviour against you that you aren't willing to show back. I believe one day you'll be ready for holding yourself to the same standard as you expect other's to treat you.
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