ahotmess Posted September 16, 2010 Posted September 16, 2010 So I met a guy online...we seemed to really hit it off. We've been on some really awesome dates...and even spent one day with his friends (a married couple). All seems well and good....except....forgive me for being a "girl" about this issue... He has contacted me ONCE during the week to make a date for the upcoming weekend. No random texts, no phone calls, no nothing:( We plan our next date, while on the current one. I have text him first on two occasions (because we had upcoming plans that I needed details on time to meet/ place etcc). On both occasions he has answered right away. We always have a great time...and last weekend we even made out a bit. He seems to really think out our dates and is genuinely a nice guy. I think it's fine that/if he dates other people, as we are no where close to being an item. I don't want or need to talk to him on a daily basis...and I"ve tried very hard not to be some psycho/stalker caller/texter. But should I not be getting some sorta contact during the week? I truly AM continuing to live my life as normal...I'm not "waiting" on him to call either. But gheez, it would be nice. I've already thought out the whole "is he married" and I HIGHLY doubt that's the case at all, after being around him AND his friends...I don't think anyone could be sly enough to pull that out. I've wondered if he is just shy....but HE kissed me first (I reciprocated), obviously not THAT shy ya know? Honestly, this lack of contact is a HUGE turn off. I'm not even sure if I want to go out with him on Sunday. If he's playing the game...part of me thinks we're both too old for that...and to be honest...I'm just NOT interested in the game. I'm not saying we need to be in a relationship....but why feign interest on a date and give absolutely nothig during the week? Why set up a date, while you'rd on a date if you're not interested? If he is genuinely interested, and just taking things slow...I get that. I believe slow and steady win the race....but you could take it slow and STILL send out the occasional "Hi" or "Hope you have a good day" or SOMETHING right? Any insight into this dilemma?
curlygirl40 Posted September 17, 2010 Posted September 17, 2010 Hard to say. Does he like to text? For some people it's not their main form of communication. I would go more by how you are together than what he 'doesn't' say while you're not together. And just because he doesn't reach out to you during the week doesn't mean he's not thinking about you. I would be confused as well. Cuz us girls like to overthink things. I mean that in the nicest way possible.
tigressA Posted September 17, 2010 Posted September 17, 2010 How long ago did you meet him? How many dates have you been on? There are a lot of people out there who don't make contact unless it's to set up the next date, in the early/non-exclusive stages. If he keeps setting up dates and is displaying interest in you on the dates, then he is interested. No doubt about that. He just doesn't see the need for contact outside of the dates, yet. That will likely change if you two ever become exclusive/enter into a relationship.
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