mortensorchid Posted September 16, 2010 Posted September 16, 2010 Today I got a friend request on Facebook, I almost died when I saw this. Let me explain ... This past summer, a rather odd fiasco unfolded before me. To review, I was ditched not once but TWICE in a span of a month. The first individual, after two get togethers, never responded to me again until I showed at his house for a BBQ (invited by his roommate). It was then that I met his new girlfriend. His way of introducing me to her was to give me a high five when I walked into the room and then giving her a big open mouthed kiss in front of me and asking how beautiful I thought she was. I responded with dignity and class, I said I hope the two of them will be very happy, assured him that we were cool, and walked away. I said since we are in the same circles I said I intended to be friendly should we happen to see each other again, but we are not going to be anything close to friends of course. At said BBQ, I ran into this other guy who was a friend of the first person. We had seen each other on and off over the last few years, we chatted and he asked to see me again. I agreed, next weekend we went out to dinner and chatted. He asked me to call or text him the next week. Wednesday after that I sent a text ... Here's where it got strange... This all took place over text messages, by the way. I sent a text saying I was thinking of BBQ food, I got a text back saying "Who's this?" I identified myself, the person on the other end said "Do I know you?" I said I was looking for ___, I must have the wrong number. The person on the other end of the texts identified themselves as his cousin's girlfriend, and that he had been using her phone. Before I could respond, I got another text saying that he had gone back to his kids' mother this past week. I texted back "Thank you for the information, sorry to have bothered you". Whether or not this person was who they said they were, I have no idea. But sure enough, the next day, I had been unfriended from his Facebook and the profile said "in a relationship" with so and so. I have never heard another word from him since. I have since seen him around, walking up and down the streets of this one neighborhood I hang out in, and when he and I have made eye contact he gave me a meek smile. I usually give him the finger back, then drive on (as I'm usually in the car when I see him). Ever since then, something inside of me just died. It's hard to believe that people really are that cruel, that people really are that mean. I think we all realize that people really are not all that good. We are all born innocent, we make a decission to choose good over evil, but the majority of us choose evil. Today, i got a friend request from him on Facebook and I blocked it. You're not pulling this s*** on me again.
TaraMaiden Posted September 16, 2010 Posted September 16, 2010 No, the majority do not choose evil. I refuse to let myself believe this. People are not evil, and in the great scheme of things what these men have demonstrated is not evil, but weakness of character, and frankly - cowardice. Do not take umbrage. I'd pity them, I really would. The first guy was frankly trying too hard, and if he could do it to you, he's equally capapble of doing it to her. or she'll turn the tables on him, and do it to him. Statistics bear this out. The second guy is just a flake, and frankly, I'd say his wife is suffering too... She took him back? Bad idea. You blocked him? Good idea. See? he's a jerk and a flake. (He probably wanted in, to send you an "I can explain" message.....) People can be disappointing. The one thing we should all do, is put all our faith, trust and hope in others, but not be surprised or feel let down if they surprise us and let us down. In every case, it's their loss.
Crazy Magnet Posted September 16, 2010 Posted September 16, 2010 People are not evil, and in the great scheme of things what these men have demonstrated is not evil, but weakness of character, and frankly - cowardice. Do not take umbrage. I'd pity them, I really would. I remember those threads. What she said. Weak men and I do pity them. I'm glad I have enough of a backbone to stand up for myself and I'm not such a wimp that I can't tell someone I'm not interested. Good for you on blocking him.
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