MrNate Posted September 16, 2010 Posted September 16, 2010 Ok, as usual there's extensive debate about what genuinely attracts a lady to a man. So I would like to know, from the beautiful women out there, what genuinely attracts YOU to a man? What traits do you require? And what aspect does a nice physique play? Does he have to be super cute? Or is it more a matter of being well groomed? Finally, what advice would you give to a man who wants to be more attractive to the opposite sex? Also according to some posters you women have a reputation for not being honest () so if you can be honest that would be great. With that said, lets discuss.
donnamaybe Posted September 16, 2010 Posted September 16, 2010 These things have shifted for me as I've matured. Height: Don't really care. It WOULD be a little disconcerting to have my guy actually be shorter than me, though. BUT - my man is only two inches taller than I am. Don't care. Physique: Hmmm... This DOES matter to a degree. I don't need some muscle bound freak, nor does it matter that he's perfectly trim or anything. It does matter, though, if he's lazy or not. I don't mind some extra poundage or someone who is on the thin side, but he has to have stamina. Looks: Matters to a degree. This gets difficult, though, because I've met guys before who were just "okay" in the looks department, but once we got to talking, they were MUCH more attractive to me. All I care about is that when I look at a guy, he doesn't actually repulse me, and that's kinda hard to do. Well, unless you refuse to brush your teeth or something. Income: Have to at least pay your own way. Personality: HUGE! I LOVE a good sense of humor, a sense of caring and compassion, and a want to work for the greater good of the family. I need a guy with a modicum of intelligence and a decent vocabulary. That doesn't mean you have to be able to impress people with big words. I just want to be able to carry on an interesting conversation. Advice? I can't help anyone there unless I personally know them.
Author MrNate Posted September 16, 2010 Author Posted September 16, 2010 These things have shifted for me as I've matured. Height: Don't really care. It WOULD be a little disconcerting to have my guy actually be shorter than me, though. BUT - my man is only two inches taller than I am. Don't care. Physique: Hmmm... This DOES matter to a degree. I don't need some muscle bound freak, nor does it matter that he's perfectly trim or anything. It does matter, though, if he's lazy or not. I don't mind some extra poundage or someone who is on the thin side, but he has to have stamina. Looks: Matters to a degree. This gets difficult, though, because I've met guys before who were just "okay" in the looks department, but once we got to talking, they were MUCH more attractive to me. All I care about is that when I look at a guy, he doesn't actually repulse me, and that's kinda hard to do. Well, unless you refuse to brush your teeth or something. Income: Have to at least pay your own way. Personality: HUGE! I LOVE a good sense of humor, a sense of caring and compassion, and a want to work for the greater good of the family. I need a guy with a modicum of intelligence and a decent vocabulary. That doesn't mean you have to be able to impress people with big words. I just want to be able to carry on an interesting conversation. Advice? I can't help anyone there unless I personally know them. These sound reasonable to me. You haven't really highlighted looks, money or power. More evidence that there is more to attraction than that.
tigressA Posted September 16, 2010 Posted September 16, 2010 (edited) Looks: They're the first thing you notice about someone, so because of that I am ranking them as most important. If I don't find a guy physically attractive, I don't bother going any further. I've tried getting to know guys who I felt were mediocre in looks and while they had great personalities, that "spark" just never ignited. That being said: I prefer guys with a full head of hair. I tend to go for "pretty" guys--refined, angular faces. I go wild for a cleft chin and nice cheekbones. Personality: I adore sense of humor. To elaborate, I like silly inside jokes, physical humor, sarcasm, clever puns. I also like a bit of ego, some cockiness. He has to be compassionate, emotionally open, curious. A sense of adventure and spontaneity are also pluses. Height: I'm 5'7"; I have dated guys shorter and taller. I prefer guys under 6'; I feel like I "fit" better with them. I doubt I would ever go below 5'4". My BF is 5'8", so an inch taller. Physique: I prefer guys with a similar build to my own: lean and trim. I'll even go for downright scrawny. I have tried dating bigger guys before but it just does not work for me. I don't like flab; I don't like a whole lot of muscle. Some definition is nice, but not necessary. Income: This is the least important thing to me. I don't care one whit about status either, so even if he's a garbage man or something, as long as he can support himself, it's all good. Advice: I have to know at least something about the person to be able to dish it out. A specific dilemma, etc. Edited September 16, 2010 by tigressA
SilentVoice Posted September 16, 2010 Posted September 16, 2010 Looks: I usually mix looks and personalities together.So a guy has to have compatible personality with me for me to like him look wise. Personality: As long as a guy has a good sense of humor, and is level headed -- all is well. Height: I am 5'8 . I don't usually go for guys more than two inches taller than me . I just don't like it. I rather someone as close to me in height as possible Physique:I like guys with big barrel chests. But average, or fit is ok. I don't really like skinny guys. I just like a guy with board shoulders. Income:Income is not really important to me . But what a guys does what his income really effects how I look at him. I mean if you live with your mom and own a 2011 LFA 12 ... umm no thanks Advice:On what? Well guys with poor posture is very unattractive. I know random but I just wanted to say that.
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