amythan Posted September 16, 2010 Posted September 16, 2010 Hi there, I feeling myself trapped in this confusing situation and some external advise would be great. To give you a short background we were kind of friends and for no particular reason we started to chat everyday. I felt he liked me and i like him very much. Despite living in different countries we made everything to see each other, we slept together and ... he said we cannot get attached. I step back and we continue to see each other for the last four months. The problem is he is confusing me. He suggested spend a weekend on holiday, he says he misses me and when we are together everything seems perfect. He holds my hand, calls me his little princess, kisses my forehead and he is just so caring and sweet. He looks at me and smiles as if he really meant it. He told me he cannot stop thinking about me. But he also said, you know we cannot miss each other that much, right ? but then again he wants to go for a weekend together .. I am going crazy. If he wants just the sex part why he texts me saying i am special and cute and all this ?? I can separate feelings from sex but not if he acts this way. I have feelings for him and i am afraid of being hurt ... He knows i like him very much and when we are together we act as if we were really in love. Why is he acts like that ? I do not know what to to do. I do not want to ask because i do not want to come as demanding or pushing him away but i feel stressed acting always so cool .. Thanks for reading !!!
TaraMaiden Posted September 16, 2010 Posted September 16, 2010 Well as I see it, you have 2 choices: Carry on as you are, or mention it. If you don't mention it, then things will carry on as they are, you will stay confused, and you'll spend all your spare time wondering what the hell is going on. If you at lest question him, then explain you are confused, but you don't want to misread him - then you can at least ask him what the hell is going on! Your choice.
EasyHeart Posted September 16, 2010 Posted September 16, 2010 From my (male) perspective, there is nothing confusing about this at all. He gets all of the benefits of having a girlfriend without any kind of commitment. He is in total control, gets exactly what he wants from you, and gives you only what he wants to give to you. And he reserves the right to end it any time he feels like it. Sounds awesome --- for him! But it sounds pretty crappy for you. What are you getting, exactly?
Author amythan Posted September 16, 2010 Author Posted September 16, 2010 Thanks for your honesty I guess it is confusing for me just because I am not like that and it is difficult to me to understand this logic. If i like someone i want to be with them and i am not afraid to show it and see how it goes - which does not mean being super committed from day one either. And if i have no feelings for them i can have sex but not play the loving couple game.
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