lvixen Posted September 16, 2010 Posted September 16, 2010 Hi all, I'm mostly in the Breakup section but I've come to this one looking for some help. I'll try to keep it has brief as possible! I'm 29 and have only had two boyfriends, one when I was 17 and my previous ex (we broke up in December). Yep, about 10 years with no dating, although I did have casual sex. Just wasn't interested. So my best friend has a friend that she has known for 10 years and she thinks we would be great for each other. He added me as a FB friend about a week ago and we exchanged some messages. He then gave me his number two days ago and I called him, and he asked me quite a bit of questions about myself, which I was OK with. He then said on the phone that he would want to meet me next time I'm at my friends place (he lives in the same building) and the next time I was going to meet up with her was yesterday so we decided to meet. He warned me (as did my friend) that he was shy though, which is OK since I'm shy too. He told my friend on the phone the day we were going to meet that he was nervous and had the jitters because my smile in my pictures is intimidating because it is so beautiful, which I thought was sweet. So we met and we shook hands and wow, he looks 100% better in the flesh than he does in the pictures. I was so intimidated, although looks don't matter to me as much as the heart and personality do, I was just shocked. My friend asked him questions and he would turn around and ask me similar questions like "how has your day been?" and "what are your plans for the week?" He smiled a lot when we were talking which I think is a good sign. When my friend had to excuse herself he said "sorry I'm not talking too much, I just don't know what to say, but once you get to know me I'll make you laugh" and asked me more questions about myself. He then asked me what time I was staying until and I said 9pm and he said he'll leave then too unless I'm staying longer in which he will stay longer too, but I was tired and had no desire to. He then offered to walk me to my bus stop (neither of us drive, big city, no real need to). My friend and I are going to a concert on Saturday night and she asked him to come with us and he agreed. So we left and I started flirting with him a bit on the walk, saying "you look much better in person than in the pics" to which he reached out and lightly touched my arm and said "your smile is beautiful". So we are at the bus stop and he says "I'll keep you company until your bus comes" but it came like a minute later to which he said "I'll see you on Saturday and see how things play out" and reached out to give me a big hug, then I was on my way. This morning he sent me a short message on FB saying that it was great meeting me, hope I had a safe trip home and to have a wonderful day. Now, a part of me says he likes me but I'm SO clueless when it comes to guys that I'm just not sure. Maybe he's just being nice to me because we have a mutual friend and she even told him to treat me well, but also told him to not lead me on. I also have no idea how to reply to his message on FB, should I just say that I had a great time too or even flirt with him a bit? I've never done the dating game before, my previous two relationships I just jumped into the relationship and look how they turned out hehe. ANY advice is appreciated!
Don Ho Posted September 16, 2010 Posted September 16, 2010 He seems to be showing you he's interested. Just take it slow, date him, have fun and see where it goes.
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