Autu Posted September 16, 2010 Posted September 16, 2010 Hey, I just need some opinions on what to do, so I figured might as well get anonymous opinions from here. Met a girl on a dating site. Talked to her several times over a month and we seemed to get along great...both have similar interests, jobs and hobbies. Then all of a sudden she quit logging on...we usually talked over the website's messenger. I sent her an email through the dating site, but I am under the impression that her subscription has ended and that is the reason why she quit logging on. I would hate to lose out just because of a subscription ending. What do I do next...I know where she works, but can't just walk into her work. We happened to work within walking distance to each other. Waiting outside of her work to talk to her seems too much stalkerish. Send her an email? I don't know her email address but figured just adding @yahoo/gmail/hotmail...I prolly have a good chance of actually getting one right. Try to find her through facebook? I just don't want to just give up but at the same time I really don't want to come across as a creepy guy or stalker.
D-Lish Posted September 16, 2010 Posted September 16, 2010 Since she was thew one that became "unreachable", it's up to her to get back in touch. When you say that you "usually" contacted each other through the site- does that mean there was another means of communication you have available to you? No- dont' contact her at work- that would come off as totally stalkerish. It stands to reason that if she new her member ship was going to lapse that she would have given you an alternative means by which to communicate with her. The fact that she didn't means she's not interested sorry to say.
that girl Posted September 16, 2010 Posted September 16, 2010 If she logged off the site without sending you an email, you should not contact her. It will likely just seem stalkerish. Why did you talk to her for a month without asking her out?
callingyouuu Posted September 16, 2010 Posted September 16, 2010 At what point do I just move on? How about... now? Hah, my crassness aside, I don't think there's a lot you can do. If she really wanted to get in touch with you, she likely would have set up a way to contact you before her subscription ended. I also think you probably should have asked her out sooner, but it's too late anyway. Sorry, dude.
phineas Posted September 16, 2010 Posted September 16, 2010 If she logged off the site without sending you an email, you should not contact her. It will likely just seem stalkerish. Why did you talk to her for a month without asking her out? This. there is no logical reason (other than other guys) why a woman can't meet somebody she met online in a public place like a coffee shop within a week or two.
Author Autu Posted September 16, 2010 Author Posted September 16, 2010 Besides the IM client, we emailed each other but again, through the site's email client. I did ask her out, but she was super busy with work for the following two weeks after I asked her out (I know it sounds like an excuse, but we work in the same field and she explained to me why she was so busy). During the following two weeks, when she was working alot, we talked a few more times. The last time I talked to her was when she was still really busy with work, so didn't get a chance to actually setup a date. (I know most of you are just going to tell me that she was using work as an excuse to blow me off) So we did agree to go out, just didn't actually get a chance to setup an actual date yet.
waynebrady Posted September 16, 2010 Posted September 16, 2010 She is not intrested, if she was she would have put in some effort to get in contact with you. She knew the subscription was going to end so if she was intrested she would have given you her email or number or whatever so you could contact her. You are going to look desperate and stalkerish if you continue to "chase" a woman that obviously is not intrested.
tylerdurden Posted September 16, 2010 Posted September 16, 2010 She isn't interested anymore, if she was she would have given you another contact. Sorry but I think you need to move on.
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