Lonelystar Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 Well, recently I stared dating a new guy about a month ago. We have been on about 4 dates, and things seem to have gone really well. However, he only texts me. I found this very annoying, and it seemed like to me that we were becoming text buddies. I asked him about it, and then he said "Well, I feel weird after my move. I feel lost" (He moved about 30 mins away). He also told me that he really likes talking to me, and that he likes me a lot but doesn't know what he wants. I took this as an excuse! I told him it was okay, and that we could remain friends or we could just stop talking. He then insisted that he really does like me a lot, but isn't sure what he wants. He also told me he still wants to keep talking to me. Now, I'm thinking perhaps he is dating someone else, and wants to see where that goes. If it doesn't work this person, maybe I'm the second choice. I am not sure if this is true, but I can't seem to find a logical explanation. He also said on several occasions "I don't really care what you say, you're just good to look at". Of course he told me that he was kidding. I just feel like he is intimidated by the things I talk about. (P.s I'm a bit nerdy when it comes to science, and basically the human condition). I am not sure if I should still keep talking to him, or just let it go. I like him, but it isn't something that I will be utterly upset over. I hate dating! Ha.
kiwi123 Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 It doesn't sound very worth it to me...if like you said it doesn't matter THAT much to you, and if he is making jokes that he doesn't care what you say this early on, and making excuses for not talking to you or seeing you then he doesn't seem worth your time. I wouldn't jump to conclusions that he is seeing some one else but it is a possibility. If it bothers you then tell him that it makes you feel that way. But you shouldn't have to wait around while he makes up his mind.
Author Lonelystar Posted September 15, 2010 Author Posted September 15, 2010 Yes, exactly. However, I feel it is my fault. I grew up in a culture where men make most of the moves, and I never call him either. I have to get over that, because it really is unfair. He still texted me today to see how I am (we had this conversation yesterday). I just don't get what his deal is, but I guess it shouldn't matter. The only reason why I am not that into it is because I don't feel like I know him that well. We do have great conversation, but again, I'm not going to get overly upset about not dating a guy I've only seen 4 times. Again in the text message today he said he really liked me. Haha, maybe he is bipolar or I am not use to dating. I've been in relationships all my life.
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