SadandConfusedWA Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 I have pretty much decided that the current guy will be the last I will meet from dating sites for a long while. I have lost myself in this dating rampage and I just want my calm and relaxed life back. It would have been great if I have met someone with long term potential, but it was not to be. As for the current guy, I will date him for as long as he wants to, but honestly, I think that chances of him ending up being someone serious are slim to none. We are just boring together. Conversation takes a lot of effort, he is very quiet and I am not a big talker myself. So it feels really forced and I don't like being in the position of constantly thinking up things to talk about. He is also almost afraid to touch me. I am pretty sure that he feels pretty much the same way about me - but I am really focusing more on how I feel here. It's funny, but the only guy I have met in my entire life that I have felt that conversation is really fun, he is intellectually stimulating and we get along so well, where everything feels completely natural is my married co-worker. Not my boss, this guy is my age and has no kids. We completely get each other's jokes and can spend hours mucking around. He is very cute too. And even more weirdly, I don't have a crush on him. At all. I am merely observing. I don't think that I am capable of unrequited love anymore. I am just saying that the difference between the natural dynamic I have with my co-worker and pulling-teeth, forced conversation with most online guys is night and day. Maybe I shouldn't be comparing, but it is difficult not to see how easy and fun things could be between two compatible people.
shadowplay Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 I have pretty much decided that the current guy will be the last I will meet from dating sites for a long while. I have lost myself in this dating rampage and I just want my calm and relaxed life back. It would have been great if I have met someone with long term potential, but it was not to be. As for the current guy, I will date him for as long as he wants to, but honestly, I think that chances of him ending up being someone serious are slim to none. We are just boring together. Conversation takes a lot of effort, he is very quiet and I am not a big talker myself. So it feels really forced and I don't like being in the position of constantly thinking up things to talk about. He is also almost afraid to touch me. I am pretty sure that he feels pretty much the same way about me - but I am really focusing more on how I feel here. It's funny, but the only guy I have met in my entire life that I have felt that conversation is really fun, he is intellectually stimulating and we get along so well, where everything feels completely natural is my married co-worker. Not my boss, this guy is my age and has no kids. We completely get each other's jokes and can spend hours mucking around. He is very cute too. And even more weirdly, I don't have a crush on him. At all. I am merely observing. I don't think that I am capable of unrequited love anymore. I am just saying that the difference between the natural dynamic I have with my co-worker and pulling-teeth, forced conversation with most online guys is night and day. Maybe I shouldn't be comparing, but it is difficult not to see how easy and fun things could be between two compatible people. Yeah, I'm doing the same. I've also resolved to take a break from dating if things go nowhere with this guy I'm seeing. Right now I'm using it as a distraction from my work. Our conversation is also quite sparse and forced. I don't know why I keep seeing him. Maybe it's inertia or to fill in the boredom. I think it's the slim hope that we'll get to know each other better and things will suddenly click. But does that ever really happen?
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