grecian Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 I met a guy online with whom I have a lot of things in common. So far we communicate through email and we both expressed our desire to meet; but it hasn't happened yet. He lives a little far and he's very busy with work even on weekends. How can I be sure that he doesn't try to date others too and how can I politely tell him that he needs to make an effort to meet but without sounding too aggressive? I really like him so far and I do believe that he is honest and he tells the truth; but still I have to let him know that he needs to do something with his time issue.
USMCHokie Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 It just seems like he's too "busy" to date at all, whether he's legitimately busy with work or busy dating other women. If he doesn't have time to meet you for an hour during the week, then he's not dateable. Just ask him out. State a specific time and a specific place. If he can't make it, then ask him for a time that works. If he can't even give you an hour, then LAUNCH. I'd honestly move on.
phineas Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 People too busy to date on an online dateing site. ummm yeah. MARRIED! LOL! Or he's got too many options & doesn't know how to juggle them.
Lemontang Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 Yes Launch! That's flake out central when he can't even tee up a date from a dating site, if he really was interested he'd go all out to set a date & time, that or he is openly dating others as well so waiting for the well to dry before it's your turn. I normally have a date & time set to go after 2 to 3 email. I'd also just flat out ask him if he's openly dating others whilst trying to court you. Nothing wrong with asking it since when your online dating you'd be having others send you emails, etc as well, so no doubt he'd be too.
ViciousViolet Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 How far does he live? He's going to date other people, you two aren't exclusive. The problem here is that he hasn't even made time to have a first meeting. After a while there is just no reason to continue contact if we haven't met face to face. How much more connecting can we do over the internet/phone?
SincereOnlineGuy Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 How can I be sure that he doesn't try to date others Why shouldn't he date others? You either make something happen (I.E. make it convenient for him to meet you, most likely by going to his town) or you become perfectly comfortable with his dating others.
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