irc333 Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 Okay, I was wondering, through out the course of your social life where you go out with friends, meet other people, etc, came across ladies at these get togethers, be it a house / pool party, dinner party, or what-not, have you added to your friends list, attempted to ask out, and just had gotten blown off or friendzoned? And now you have all these lady friends on your friends list that will never go out with you? Do you do clean house on occasion and start deleting some people?
Sphere Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 Never try and score a chick through facebook. If I meet a girl and I'm interested, I'll create small talk and try and leave a good impression, before going in for the number. Once I've got the number, I bail...mission complete, objective gained.
phineas Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 I don't friend chicks on facebook. They friend me. I don't ask them out either but eventually they have asked me to hang out. As a guy I think it's creepy for me to meet a chick somewhere & then search for her on facebook & send a friend request. I mean, who does that? To me it's like finding out a girls last name then looking her up in the phone book & cold calling her home phone. Of course, i'm pushing 40 so things were different back then in my early years.
dispatch3d Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 I don't even like messaging girls on facebook because I feel like I'm hitting on them. Definitely would never ask them out via facebook. Rarely do I friend a girl. Maybe if she's friends of a friend and I want to get along with that particular friend. That's it. Probably wouldn't even do that again (it's a regret).... lol there was a girl I added like two days ago that I've played frisbee with for >2 years and never added until now.
EasyHeart Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 I never FB-friend anyone I think I might want to date. It really saves on drama and stalking. And if a woman sends me a friend request, I call her on the phone (NOT any kind of email or text) and explain that I'm not accepting because I think I'd like to date her. That pretty much always that ends up to us setting up a date, because the only reason she sent me a friend request is because she is interested in me. FB is for friends, not dates.
JohnnyBlaze Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 Yes, I do occasionally clean house. Since I don't typically add people I have just met, the ones being pruned are usually ex's that I don't talk with anymore, friends who haven't said two words to me all year other than "happy birthday", or people who I'm just getting annoyed with and would really rather not talk to anymore - out they go!
In_Repair Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 I never FB-friend anyone I think I might want to date. It really saves on drama and stalking. And if a woman sends me a friend request, I call her on the phone (NOT any kind of email or text) and explain that I'm not accepting because I think I'd like to date her. That pretty much always that ends up to us setting up a date, because the only reason she sent me a friend request is because she is interested in me. FB is for friends, not dates. Yes. If you have to use FB to talk to actual friends or family, then do it like this. I don't even have an account. Started a profile, but never filled it in or posted any pics. I'm a single man. Why in the hell would I ever invite that drama into my life? I have much more personal ways of contacting anyone I actually want to hear from. I'll be damned if I'm going to open the gates of hell and let all of those bats out on an open forum where they can identify and contact one another. That just sounds like a disaster waiting to happen.
bayouboi Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 Hah! I'm guilty of facebook creeping & asking a girl out just the other day. I'm rarely motivated enough to make an effort, so when I am motivated I don't really care how I go about it. Nothing ventured, nothing gained I suppose and it didn't cost me anything to try. Got shot down, but it's sort of expected going that route. As for cleaning house, I will likely be doing some pruning at year end. I'm so ready for this year to be over.
Author irc333 Posted September 15, 2010 Author Posted September 15, 2010 (edited) As a guy I think it's creepy for me to meet a chick somewhere & then search for her on facebook & send a friend request. I mean, who does that? Um...my other friends do that, too. Not sure what world your in. So, to educate you. I know a lot of people who met at parties and social gatherings, only to friends request them later, sometimes they'll ask each other, "Hey, you on Facebook?" and people add each other. To me it's like finding out a girls last name then looking her up in the phone book & cold calling her home phone.To me it's like finding out a girls last name then looking her up in the phone book & cold calling her home phone. Pushing 40 here, so there goes your theory. I guess you just you prefer your own way of socializing, but Facebook has now become the mainstream way of keeping in touch with others. Edited September 15, 2010 by irc333
Author irc333 Posted September 15, 2010 Author Posted September 15, 2010 FB is for friends, not dates. Well, that's how you prefer to use it, but it's what the person makes of it.
Author irc333 Posted September 15, 2010 Author Posted September 15, 2010 Hah! I'm guilty of facebook creeping & asking a girl out just the other day. I'm rarely motivated enough to make an effort, so when I am motivated I don't really care how I go about it. Nothing ventured, nothing gained I suppose and it didn't cost me anything to try. Exactly, no need to pay expensive monthly subscription to dating sites, lol.
phineas Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 If i'm social with a woman at a party & interested in her I just ask for her number. facebooking her & asking her out via a facebook message is no different than asking a woman out through text.
Author irc333 Posted September 15, 2010 Author Posted September 15, 2010 I really don't see the difference actually. Social networking has become so mainstream, it's irrelevant. <shrug> If i'm social with a woman at a party & interested in her I just ask for her number. facebooking her & asking her out via a facebook message is no different than asking a woman out through text.
meerkat stew Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 I'm older, but don't have any problem at all friending anyone on FB, view it very casually. If people take it very seriously as taboo to date from or with its own set of strict protocols, that's their prerogative to do so, but not my problem. I take professional sites like linked in a bit more seriously. FB is just a fun toy to keep up with people, not a linchpin in mine or my friends' social life. As far as cleaning house, I think one person who has ever friended me, cleaned me, and it wasn't malicious in any way. I've never deleted anyone.
phineas Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 I'm older, but don't have any problem at all friending anyone on FB, view it very casually. If people take it very seriously as taboo to date from or with its own set of strict protocols, that's their prerogative to do so, but not my problem. I take professional sites like linked in a bit more seriously. FB is just a fun toy to keep up with people, not a linchpin in mine or my friends' social life. As far as cleaning house, I think one person who has ever friended me, cleaned me, and it wasn't malicious in any way. I've never deleted anyone. See, I use my cell phone for coordinating my social life. Maybe i'm wierd that way. My FB page has very few people I actually don't associate with.
CLC2008 Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 Never try and score a chick through facebook. If I meet a girl and I'm interested, I'll create small talk and try and leave a good impression, before going in for the number. Once I've got the number, I bail...mission complete, objective gained. Agreed.
USMCHokie Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 I don't friend chicks on facebook. They friend me. This. facebooking her & asking her out via a facebook message is no different than asking a woman out through text. Exactly. It's also just as lame. I don't FB-friend girls I'm dating until it reaches relationship level.
Author irc333 Posted September 16, 2010 Author Posted September 16, 2010 Well, I guess people here don't use FB to it's full capacity. I've been invited to many parties via Facebook, including the up and coming Halloween parties, summer time lake parties, you name it. That being said, it's a wonder people haven't jumped on such a bandwagon.....but don't worry, the time will come when your friends that you associate with will invite you to a party via FB, and you'll take them up on their invite. I'm older, but don't have any problem at all friending anyone on FB, view it very casually. If people take it very seriously as taboo to date from or with its own set of strict protocols, that's their prerogative to do so, but not my problem. I take professional sites like linked in a bit more seriously. FB is just a fun toy to keep up with people, not a linchpin in mine or my friends' social life. As far as cleaning house, I think one person who has ever friended me, cleaned me, and it wasn't malicious in any way. I've never deleted anyone.
Author irc333 Posted September 16, 2010 Author Posted September 16, 2010 (edited) This. Exactly. It's also just as lame. Well that's your opnion, but the facts remain, FB is has become mainstream now. I used to think that way, but now that my friends have jumped on the FB, I joined up as well, in order to stay in touch with others that I've met in real life. Why do you think it's lame? By the way, I'm pushing "40" as well, but of course I grew up technology from back in the day as well, too. THat WARGAME movie was awesome! Edited September 16, 2010 by irc333
Author irc333 Posted September 16, 2010 Author Posted September 16, 2010 I got one for ya, I met a woman at a Halloween party, I asked for her #, and she gave me her email because she was still being cautious. LOL We went out on a date anyhow (so it wasn't because she wasn't interested) So it's really neither here nor there.
USMCHokie Posted September 16, 2010 Posted September 16, 2010 Well that's your opnion, but the facts remain, FB is has become mainstream now. I absolutely agree that FB is very mainstream now. And yes, I stay updated with my friends through FB. And yes, I get invited to parties through FB. And yes, I sometimes even go to them. Why do you think it's lame? Well I certainly don't have to explain why asking a girl out on a date via text message is hella lame. The FB message is practically the same thing...the only difference is that you're not limited to 160 characters...
USMCHokie Posted September 16, 2010 Posted September 16, 2010 I got one for ya, I met a woman at a Halloween party, I asked for her #, and she gave me her email because she was still being cautious. LOL "Cautious" = not interested...especially with the way folks are attached to their fancy phones nowadays...
Author irc333 Posted September 16, 2010 Author Posted September 16, 2010 "Cautious" = not interested...especially with the way folks are attached to their fancy phones nowadays... Oh, apparently you didn't read the rest of the post....we did go out. I just wound up getting her # later.
Author irc333 Posted September 16, 2010 Author Posted September 16, 2010 "Cautious" = not interested...especially with the way folks are attached to their fancy phones nowadays... Hey, if you want to go there, I even had gotten phone #'s from women that weren't interested. Guy gets phone #, guy calls the woman for a date, she sits there and screens the call, and hit's the "delete" button and doesn't call back. So you're really just trying to split hairs here.
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