KitKate Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 I just signed on to this forum, so please, please forgive me if I am posting in the wrong area. I met my first boyfriend on a dating website when I was 26 years old. He was the first person I ever kissed and the first person I slept with. Needless to say, being completely new to dating and men, I missed all the obvious "red flags" and got my heart seriously broken. I'm now 28, and I have been on at least 30 or so online blind dates with each one ending because I somehow don't ever hear from them again. I should just "shake it off" but with each guy that leaves, I question my own self-worth. It's really a downer to be rejected over and over again, regardless of the situation, reason, or person. About 2 months ago, I met someone who seemed a bit different from the rest. He seemed genuine and eager to continue to see me. We got along rather well. I liked that he seemed honest with me and we seemed to have a "healthy" relationship where we communicated frequently over the telephone and we consistently went on dates once or twice a week. Eventually, partly due to my busy school/work schedule and partly because I no longer wanted to meet other people, I stopped signing onto the dating website where we had both met. After about 3 weeks of not logging in, I logged in this week to find that he was still logging in daily. We've been seeing each at least once a week for 2 months now, and communicate over text almost every day. Is it generally too early to be exclusive or to expect him to no longer want to see other people? Because of this, I've decided to try to meet other people, but it is difficult when you feel like you've met someone that you're already interested in. I'm not sure whether what this guy is doing is a "red flag" that I should be aware of, or if I'm just being emotionally involved too soon. I have no idea. I'm still very new to dating in general, let alone online dating. I apologize for the long read..... does anyone have any advice, opinions, suggestions? Perhaps anything about what the online dating norm may be, if any? Thanks.
Raderick Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 Sounds like this is your typical "he's playing the field" argument. Maybe you should talk to him about being exclusive, and see where that takes you. Say that you feel like you have a connection and think you should take it to the next level. You'll know what he thinks from there.
sugarmomma Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 No do not ask him about being exclusive. Just start dating other people until he brings up being exclusive.
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