SilentVoice Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 I am not referring to sex or anything sexual, but how fast is too fast. I received a message from a guy on OKC on Friday. Met him the day after,Saturday, and will be going on my third date with him tomorrow(Tuesday). Every thing is fine ,we both enjoy each others company. And I am personally trying to take it slow , since I have a tendency to lose emotional interests in guys quick. I don't know , are we seeing each other to much too quick? I am trying to just let things flow naturally , but I can't help the irrational thoughts sometime. (HELP!) lol Thanks in advance And no I haven't slept with him
sugarmomma Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 I think as long as you haven't slept with him, its fine. You see people all the time communicate via im or email for a long time and get all attached just to meet in person and nothing. At least you're getting to know him in real life so I say just date for a while and get to know as much about him as possible. Best wishes
atlnay Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 If you tend to lose interest quickly, then yea, three dates in four days is fast. Side topic, this is you trying to take it slow?? Holy moly! Lol
Author SilentVoice Posted September 14, 2010 Author Posted September 14, 2010 If you tend to lose interest quickly, then yea, three dates in four days is fast. Side topic, this is you trying to take it slow?? Holy moly! Lol No I think I maybe worded it wrong. I want to get to know him, so that can go as fast as it wants. I meant take it slow sexually -_-
Author SilentVoice Posted September 14, 2010 Author Posted September 14, 2010 I think as long as you haven't slept with him, its fine. You see people all the time communicate via im or email for a long time and get all attached just to meet in person and nothing. At least you're getting to know him in real life so I say just date for a while and get to know as much about him as possible. Best wishes :-) thanks
atlnay Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 I meant take it slow sexually -_-[/QUote] Ahhhh, I see (said the blind man) lol...okay I still stand by my take it slow (er) advice. Especially given that you bottom out on them emotionally quickly too, that's the reason. Pace yourself a bit. Go a day or two without communication to miss each other, don't try to know all about each other yesterday and as much as you may click and be compatible off the bat, your own experience shows you how fast that can change with too much contact. Good luck & try to savor the getting to know you stage a bit longer
sugarmomma Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 Ahhhh, I see (said the blind man) lol...okay I still stand by my take it slow (er) advice. Especially given that you bottom out on them emotionally quickly too, that's the reason. Pace yourself a bit. Go a day or two without communication to miss each other, don't try to know all about each other yesterday and as much as you may click and be compatible off the bat, your own experience shows you how fast that can change with too much contact. Good luck & try to savor the getting to know you stage a bit longer I agree with keeping the communication at a pace where you still live your life and spend time with your regular activities. I would speak with him every other day maybe and spend a couple nights a week.
Author SilentVoice Posted September 14, 2010 Author Posted September 14, 2010 Ahhhh, I see (said the blind man) lol...okay I still stand by my take it slow (er) advice. Especially given that you bottom out on them emotionally quickly too, that's the reason. Pace yourself a bit. Go a day or two without communication to miss each other, don't try to know all about each other yesterday and as much as you may click and be compatible off the bat, your own experience shows you how fast that can change with too much contact. Good luck & try to savor the getting to know you stage a bit longer @ bold-ed text You are right ,sigh, I will like the "getting to know you stage" to last a little longer . Thanks for the reply -- it is appreciated I agree with keeping the communication at a pace where you still live your life and spend time with your regular activities. I would speak with him every other day maybe and spend a couple nights a week. Yeah I keep the communication besides planning dates to minimum anyway. But thanks for the reply it is appreciated as well.
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