BillieD Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 I've been talking to this guy pretty intensely for over a month. We've been on two dates and mostly hit it off. On the second date (yesterday) we hooked up. We didn't have sex but we may as well have, it wasn't a quick fumble. I didn't think it would go that far but I got swept up in the moment. I was worried afterwards and he assured me that he didn't think less of me and that he wasn't judgmental. But I'm still worried. He did call me shortly after the date to make sure that I wasn't weirded out. But now it's the next day and he hasn't called yet and I don't want to call because I don't want to appear desperate. Although right now I kind of feel desperate which is not a feeling I like (well, duh, who does). I'm feeling really vulnerable because it went too far too fast. Partly I want him to call for the reassurance but I don't want to reach out for that because it would probably be too apparent. I'm just really confused now. I don't know if I should be worried or not but I am. I haven't dated in a long time and am still gunshy from my last relationship. I don't know what to think. Did I mess it up?
sugarmomma Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 You guys have been talking for a month? That's long enough. If you hadn't made a big deal out of it he probably wouldn't be pulling your insecurity strings right now. You should have played it a bit cooler. Don't sweat it. He will call because he'll want some more. Whatever you do, don't call or text him. Go out have some fun with your girls.
welikeincrowds Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 No, you didn't mess up. Don't even worry about him, calling him, etc. Instead, occupy your time by doing something else that you enjoy. Hooking up is supposed to be fun for you, remember? Things will work out for you. It's only romance.
Author BillieD Posted September 14, 2010 Author Posted September 14, 2010 Yeah, I'm not going to call him. I'll try to do what you both advised and occupy my time. Way too late to go out but I'll try to relax with a book. Though I find it really hard to read when I'm worried. I hope I'm worried over nothing. He hasn't actually given me any reason to worry. All signs point to him being interested in me...but for some reason I'm continuously on pins and needles. Ugh.
Author BillieD Posted September 15, 2010 Author Posted September 15, 2010 Well, he called tonight and we talked for awhile. Everything's fine, I guess I was just overdramatising...which is something I tend to do in general. He didn't talk to me any differently than before and seems more interested if anything.
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