sig537 Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 Hi I am in a great relationship with a 26 year old divorced mom of 2. We have been dating about 6 months and its getting pretty serious. I knew she was divorced from the beginning so I knew what I was walking into. I know the ex was still around, just because of the kids. They both have refilled for changes in child custody and the case is coming up soon. Problem is I never thought dating a divorced mom would be this hard. I feel really awkward around the ex so I usually try to avoid interaction with him. I get tired of hearing about him, she vents to me about him multiple times a week. I know she has no feelings for him anymore, they ended well before they even seperated. I want to be there and support her through this but I think its having a negative impact on my feelings toward her. I know I walked into this relationship knowing about the ex but I never thought it would be like this. On one hand I want to know whats going on so I can be there for her but on the other hand I want to be out of the loop. Also I dont want my relationship with her to have an impact on her child custody battle. Her ex has listed her relationship with me in the child custody paperwork, saying it negatively impacts the kids (bs of course). Anyone have any advice on how to handle this?
tami-chan Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 Hi I am in a great relationship with a 26 year old divorced mom of 2. We have been dating about 6 months and its getting pretty serious. I knew she was divorced from the beginning so I knew what I was walking into. I know the ex was still around, just because of the kids. They both have refilled for changes in child custody and the case is coming up soon. Problem is I never thought dating a divorced mom would be this hard. I feel really awkward around the ex so I usually try to avoid interaction with him. I get tired of hearing about him, she vents to me about him multiple times a week. I know she has no feelings for him anymore, they ended well before they even seperated. I want to be there and support her through this but I think its having a negative impact on my feelings toward her. I know I walked into this relationship knowing about the ex but I never thought it would be like this. On one hand I want to know whats going on so I can be there for her but on the other hand I want to be out of the loop. Also I dont want my relationship with her to have an impact on her child custody battle. Her ex has listed her relationship with me in the child custody paperwork, saying it negatively impacts the kids (bs of course). Anyone have any advice on how to handle this? I hope a lot of people would respond, this is interesting because I'm dating a divorced man with two young kids. My family thinks I am complicating my life....c'mon people let's hear your thoughts!
alexlakeman Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 I am a divorced guy with two kiddies... I prefer to date divorced women with kids... so we are on the same page... historically that has worked best for me.. OP, You don't need to even see the ex... why are you being put on the spot? She can deal with that on her time? I rarellllllllllllllllllllllllllllyyy have had to deal with a gf's ex husband... With kids, she is always going to have issues with the ex...that's life.. forget it, that's too much baggage if you don't have kids of your own, you will never understand where she is coming from... If you stick around, good luck..
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