dsaasd Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 So I met this guy and we've been casually dating for about a month. Its been great, however, I feel like I'm not quite good enough for him. He's a sarcastic witty guy and sometimes I feel like the conversation is slightly over my head. I'm in university for social services (as I want to be a high school guidance couselor or sex educator, this is obviously an approriate choice), however, sometimes i find my program less 'academic' than others. Anyways, long story short, he graduated from the same university I currently attend (Ivy League) and is one of those people who seems to have an inherent ability to retain numerous facts and can keep up a conversation/discussion about almost any subject. Is worrying I'm not "intellectual enough" ridiculous?
denise_xo Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 So I met this guy and we've been casually dating for about a month. Its been great, however, I feel like I'm not quite good enough for him. He's a sarcastic witty guy and sometimes I feel like the conversation is slightly over my head. I'm in university for social services (as I want to be a high school guidance couselor or sex educator, this is obviously an approriate choice), however, sometimes i find my program less 'academic' than others. Anyways, long story short, he graduated from the same university I currently attend (Ivy League) and is one of those people who seems to have an inherent ability to retain numerous facts and can keep up a conversation/discussion about almost any subject. Is worrying I'm not "intellectual enough" ridiculous? Well, whether you are 'adequate' or not is up to him, not you, so from that perspective there's no point in worrying about it. All you can do is to be your good self, with confidence. If that's not good enough for him, you should treat it as his loss But don't allow yourself to get intimidated by theoretical masturbation. I'm doing a PhD myself and I love intellectual discussion, but that stuff is what it is - one 'skill' out of a million others - and people who try to score points by talking over other people's heads really annoy me. Bottom line is, I think, that most people want to have a partner who really sees and appreciates the beauty in them. If he does, your capacity to participate in intellectual roundabouts is secondary. If the latter is a key requirement for him in a relationship, you might be looking at an issue of long term incompatibility.
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