Laugher Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 So after a break up and broken heart etc...how long was it before you felt that real buzz of excitement when you met someone new? or how long before you fell in love again?
meerkat stew Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 So after a break up and broken heart etc...how long was it before you felt that real buzz of excitement when you met someone new? or how long before you fell in love again? It depends, dumper or dumpee? true broken heart involving lies, cheating, deceit, 6-8 months, but have only experienced this a few times, and though I've been the dumper, my hand was forced, so I was in effect the dumpee if that makes sense. Run of the mill dumping a woman due to bad behavior, lack of proper respect, inconsistent or dishonest character, etc., can be dating again the next week.
Author Laugher Posted September 13, 2010 Author Posted September 13, 2010 I was the dumpee..its been a year now and iv dated a good few guys but I havnt felt that excitement over any of them..I was wondering is that normal after a big break up, like its me or then mabye its simply because I just havnt met anyone I click with.
atlnay Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 When i was in college my best friend told me the formula was 2:1. If you were together 2 weeks, in 4 weeks you should be good. 3 months? Looking at 6 months. Is it true? In my case more times than not. I would suggest take some time to work on yourself to a degree, lick your wounds and/orget under the covers, then GET BACK OUT THERE. Even if you have to fake it, the distractions will help you heal faster. Be gentle with yourself and don't "use" anyone you genuinely don't like, but try and socialize & flirt a bit.
alexlakeman Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 Typically I can just move on, and I do.. But I guess when you are really in love it takes longer... In my case, ex gf broke up with me in March b/c I cheated... I've dated 4-5 women, but still think of the ex.. The test I give myself is "if I am dating this new woman, and my ex calls or comes through that door, would I dump the new one for her?"... and so far... I would, so feelings are still there.. So, it's been...6 months for me ... and that was an 8-9 month relationship .... terrible
Veronica K Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 I was the dumpee..its been a year now and iv dated a good few guys but I havnt felt that excitement over any of them..I was wondering is that normal after a big break up, like its me or then mabye its simply because I just havnt met anyone I click with. It's normal to feel that way for a while after a major breakup, but at this point I'm thinking it's more likely than not you haven't met someone you click with yet. Be patient with yourself, I don't think there's anything wrong.
rlindzie Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 I also heard its a 2:1 kind of thing, and that really only works for me if i had a lot of emotions invested. But i mean if in the end it was a bad relationship like the year long relationship i just got out of 2 weeks ago [ he was very controlling almost abusivly so, very demanding and just all around not a good relationship] i am just excited and buzzed to be out of it and by myself so, if i found someone who was fun and casual I would go out for it just for fun even if it wasnt love or anything serious. I guess getting the excitment back all depends on length, type of relationship [meaning good and ending on good terms or bad ending on bad terms ect.] and how hurt you got. I think you need to go have fun just to have fun and one day when you least expect it the excitment will show up good luck i hope you have loads of fun!
meerkat stew Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 I was the dumpee..its been a year now and iv dated a good few guys but I havnt felt that excitement over any of them..I was wondering is that normal after a big break up, like its me or then mabye its simply because I just havnt met anyone I click with. IMO it's totally normal. It's good to take some time between relationships to get comfortable with yourself, especially for people who have always been in relationships. I don't think a year is too long. Have been out of relationships for a year now and have enjoyed the peace and quiet to think about life and focus on career.
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