yume Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 So my ex (whom I speak to) randomly said to me the other day he knows a guy who's interested in me and was just letting me know in case he does approach me to talk, or whatever. I asked him who this guy was, and he said that it was just someone that comes in to talk to him at work (my ex and I both work together). I was really weirded out by this because I can't understand my ex's motives - I mean what normal person wants to set up their ex with someone they know? Anyway, this guy ends up messaging me on FACEBOOK. hey what's up, I got your facebook account from ****, I know you don't know me but I went to ****** too I was like wtf at this, #1 because my ex gave this guy my name, who already knows where I work, and apparently my high school too, but #2, what loser doesn't have the balls to come up to me in person if he already knows where to find me?? Anyway, I ignored the message and went about my weekend. Come home from work, and this is sitting in my inbox. hey what's up?, what are you up to how's (place where i work)? I mean really? I don't want to have to reply to this...because I am not interested in this guy...and am already seeing someone. I've already texted my ex and told him to tell this guy to lay off...he is, after all, the one who gave this guy my name and whatever else. Is it appropriate for me to make my ex deal with his 'matchmaking' or should I message this guy back and deal with him myself?
atlnay Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 If you are that weirded out, let your ex put the kibash om the new dude. Don't reply to any of his messages & tell your ex you are involved and to pass that along. It's on him to handle the awkwardness of an unasked for matchmaking attempt.
tigressA Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 It's on your ex to fix this thing. You never asked him to set you up and you didn't ever engage with the guy in question. Tell your ex to tell the guy to leave you alone, you're not interested. And also tell your ex that you don't ever want him trying to set you up with people and giving them information about you without your express permission. What he did was incredibly presumptuous. I'd be pissed. Of course, if you want it to be over faster, you could just tell the guy yourself.
TigerCub Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 You call the guy a loser and complain the he doesn't have the balls to come up to you if he already has your name, but now you don't have the balls to just reply to the guy and say "thanks but I'm already seeing someone" its not like this guy is stalking you or anything for you to act like its such a HUGE problem that your ex needs to deal with. Your ex screwed up by giving this guy your info - that's definitely something you should talk to your ex about and ask him not to do that in the future but as far as replying to this guy - maybe you should have some balls and do it in a nice way and get it overwith.
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