nothappyjan Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 Hi, been with my bf for 5months we are in our mid 20s and neither of us have said i love you yet. We have a pretty good r/ship and talk about the future and marriage and kids, have met the family etc. On the weekend we were joking together in the semi dark and i was asking him what he gives me and he said i give you my love. I kinda laughed it off. I've been feeling it for awhile and want to say it, but wondering if i should wait for him to properly say i love you or just go for it myself. .
aerogurl87 Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 You can say it, you can wait to say it, doesn't matter. But honestly I think the words "I love you" should come out both of your mouths before you start talking marriage, kids, and starting a family.
Cee Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 I don't think it matters either. Say it when you feel safe to do so. The best part of a solid relationship is that love will continue to grow over time. And the "I love you" will deepen in meaning and feeling. Sigh
Author nothappyjan Posted September 13, 2010 Author Posted September 13, 2010 ok, its just tricky when both of us are not over the top lovey dovey people and im not normally a person who says i love you, not even to family.
rlindzie Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 you sound like me in the way that im not lovey dovey and i dont say i love to family excpet a rare occasion.In the past i've said it back when i didn't feel it and i totally regreted it, and i have also tried saying it first and totally regretted that as well lol ,so waiting is not a bad idea. I mean it wont hurt to wait, and if you feel like telling him in a smaller way you could say " I am falling in love with you" it takes the edge a pressure off
denise_xo Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 If you feel like saying it, just say it...
tami-chan Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 If you feel like saying it, just say it... If you truly feel it, say it, yes. I would say it only as a fact, and not because I am trying to manipulate him or hope that he would say it to me back. Don't be frivolous about it either. I don't understand why the men have to say it first-who made the rule?
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