Serenitynow Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 How many people do you think lie about how religious they are just to get their foot in the door? I think in general, women tend to be more religious than men. At least in my part of the country in Ohio/PA. On the dating site I am on, I constantly read profiles of women, where they ask that the guy be religious, and go to church. Now you know damn well there are plenty of guys that will lie through their teeth just to have a relationship with her. I pass up countless numbers of profiles, because I will never fake it just to get a date.
bobdole Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 I'm the same way. I see anywhere in the profile where they say "I need a man that loves the lord", "Christ comes first in our lives", etc - I pass on by. I used to go to church and was baptized/saved on my own accord. I have since had a major shift in my life regarding religion and I can't fake being a Christian. I have my own beliefs and I stick to them. I do however have "Christian'ish morals" still. I have no issue with a potential mate being religious but I have no desire to partake in it and won't "front".
GooseChaser Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 It's all about compatibility. Maybe it would be okay for a person to say they were religious if they would consider converting to that religion if things got more serious. Otherwise, the religiousness or lack thereof would show itself sooner or later as the two got to know each other better. Then, it would probably be a problem if the one who was lied to started to get concerned about the level of honesty of the other and lose some trust-- another very important thing in a relationship.
Feelin Frisky Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 Sure, there will be disingenuous guys who'll fake it but I won't be among them. Toto has pulled the curtain aside an exposed the man behind the big wizzard. No going back.
Gattica Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 I wouldn't lie about religion. I am not religious and wouldn't date anyone that was actively involved in church. I don't think too many folks would lie about not being religious to get a date.
Mike B. Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 I am not very religious and I have dated too many women who put the "have to be religious and go to church to date me" on the table upfront. I didn't budge and they never pressured me. Many cases, I found the woman not to be very religious at all but just liked to talk the talk. I would still go for it because too many of these people are really not as religious as they initially project. I am dating a woman now who told me how she wanted a man to be religious and churchgoing. I told her I wasn't that type and we just moved to another topic. She has not brought up the topic again.
GooseChaser Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 Why does "being religious" have to be synonymous with "aggressively avoiding sex"? Yes, abstinence is only one of their ideals, and religious people can still decide to... disobey that one, if that's what they want. Besides, religious people can be very good choices for partners, as they often care very strongly about the relationships they form and being trustworthy. They just like to be a bit spiritual. I guess another thing that could be a problem is if they were really bugged by their partner not being religious and got on the partner's case about it all the time. We're not all like that though.
Cee Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 I've been tempted to say I'm Jewish so I can go to Jewish mixers & J Date. My dad's side of the family is Jewish, but that doesn't qualify. I am a sucker for Jewish men. But to answer your question, I could never bring myself to lie about my religion. It's too central and important to people's identity.
Mikki Mars Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 I've been tempted to say I'm Jewish so I can go to Jewish mixers & J Date. My dad's side of the family is Jewish, but that doesn't qualify. I am a sucker for Jewish men. But to answer your question, I could never bring myself to lie about my religion. It's too central and important to people's identity. given that Jewish is an ethnicity in addition to religion, you still qualify as Jewish, especially if you have a typical Jewish first name, like Alex or Joshua.
xpaperxcutx Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 I'm not religious ( more agnostic) and when it comes to dating someone who is ( almost to the point of fanaticism) I would be wary. I'd dated Jewish men. My conclusion- I can't be two serious about them since when half of them states on their profile they're not serious about it, I know for a fact they're dating for the sake of dating, and they'll settle for a nice Jewish girl. I'd dated a Muslim girl- she's been my best date by far. I didn't even know she was religious until I saw a Quran in her apartment.
Confused100 Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 I wouldn't lie about religion. I am not religious and wouldn't date anyone that was actively involved in church. I don't think too many folks would lie about not being religious to get a date. I tend to agree with this. I just don't find it attractive at all.
LisaLee Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 I lie about my religion all the time when I'm at work. I deal with a lot of religious old ladies, so I do lead them to believe that I'm more religious than I am. And since I major in Religion I've visited the majority of the churches in my area, so I can talk like I know what I'm talking about. I'm much more honest with peers and my SO, I don't feel the need to conform outside of work.
aerogurl87 Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 Why lie to get a date? If you have to lie you shouldn't be with that person in the first place. When I met my boyfriend I told him upfront I believed in God but was agnostic, through and through. He accepted me for who I was, but then eventually I returned to Christianity (which admittedly he is very happy about). But even still I could not date a religious fanatic that is always like "Lord this, Jesus that" or a fanatical atheist at that. My ex was like that, finding any situation to prove his point that religion and religious people were "stupid". I like individuals who have strong belief systems but are not condescending towards everyone else who does not share their beliefs.
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