SteveC80 Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 Allot of people here are people bitter towards the oppsite sex and are here becasue of there lack of luck with them Sites like these imo make people evne more bitter and cynical because it reinforces to people there already negative views towards the opposite sex becasue of what they see posted Lets be honest theyres allot of whackjobs on here:laugh: if you go by this site and others like this youd think most guys are whiny socially retarded peple who think talking to a women is like splitting the f'in atom and women are all self absorbed entitled pricnesses who think they deserve Mr perfect evne if they are painfully average
jean-luc sisko Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 Such is life. People on the internet show their true colours, or this is the only forum they can relate to.
Simon Attwood Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 You're not the first to come to reach this question http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t216970/ and i am sure you won't be the last
D-Jam Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 I think these sites are more where people can openly talk about their issues with the opposite sex and not be put down by their peers. Face it, if a man were to try to talk about girl problems with other men...the other men either dodge the conversation or they ridicule the guy and make him out to be "less of a man". He's not given any sympathy or real advice other than "girls are whores...treat them like ****". Women also get the same problems. Not every gathering is going to be like Sex and the City, but could end up more with some small pot shots as to why someone can't keep a man or what not...or even things get distorted from advice on how to get Mr Right into feminist man-bashing. I believe there are some socially inept people who get on these boards to talk, but there are many more who just have problems because they're not one of the above average folk in a world where everyone thinks they can get above average mates.
Anela Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 I hardly visit, because I find it depressing... I could get more men - plenty more - if I wanted to, but their attitudes are just as important as anything else: their attitudes towards and about me, themselves and others. All of this crap about people being average, so they shouldn't expect much? Depressing. I'm not ugly, but I'm not stunning. Despite that, I've attracted a lot of attention. I find it disgusting that so many people feel entitled, just because they're 'hot', they have a great job, etc. Everyone deserves to be loved, everyone deserves happiness, and their outside shouldn't determine what their life amounts to. That attitude I see everywhere, is so f'king shallow. That, the term 'cougar', the fact that so many people just hook up and expect everyone else to do so - so that seems to become the thing to do, leaving a lot of people unsatisfied over the long term - those and other things, have me leaving here feeling sad and never wanting a man in my life again.
hydorclops Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 I agree with the above. Some pretty sad, unhappy people here, plus a fair number of posters with amused contempt. Not a good combination.
Pyro Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 Very true. The diiference is those who can differentiate between looking at people as individuals and looking at people as an entire gender. Those who look at a gender as a whole will not be helping themselves at all by being here, nor someone who views life as black and white.
TheBigQuestion Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 My favorite threads here lately are the ones from women who are overanalyzing their dates to the point of lunacy. It reeks of desperation and insecurity. Seriously. "I need to drop 5/10/15 pounds in a week because I'm meeting a guy who has never seen me in person before and I think that 5 pounds will make a visual difference to him." Do the women writing these threads realize just how bat-sh** insane they make themselves look by saying things like this? Or threads where women keep trying to keep unpleasant relationships going just because the sex is good? Holy crap. I think my favorites are all the women who complain that guys never approach them or show any interest in them, and thus have their self-esteem killed in the process, while in the same breath talking about the 10 or so guys who contacted them on a dating site that they ignored in the past week alone. See, usually I've found that it's the guys who post here that are the most unfortunate. The guys who complain about their lack of height, their extreme social anxiety, etc. But there's been a pretty big paradigm shift on here lately and it's somewhat refreshing from a reader's perspective, if equally disheartening and disturbing. My conclusion? I'm in total agreement. This place is a magnet for emotional midgets. The fact that my dating/sex history and hang-ups look more sane than most people's here speaks volumes.
robdrm32 Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 I use the site to get a different perspective on myself and/or a particular situation. For me it's hard to talk to any of the guy friends i have about girls because most of them are your classic self-centered men, immature and shallow. And for the people i can talk to, they tend to tell me what I want to hear, rather than what I need to hear and that doesn't help me. Forums are great for their brutal honesty, and i think this site is a form of support when you have a dilemma that you don't feel you can bring to anyone currently in your life.
WowReally Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 I use this site to educate myself and see that these situations exist all over...and the pattern is the same or similar all over!
TheBigQuestion Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 I use the site to get a different perspective on myself and/or a particular situation. For me it's hard to talk to any of the guy friends i have about girls because most of them are your classic self-centered men, immature and shallow. And for the people i can talk to, they tend to tell me what I want to hear, rather than what I need to hear and that doesn't help me. Forums are great for their brutal honesty, and i think this site is a form of support when you have a dilemma that you don't feel you can bring to anyone currently in your life. Except that many people's negative experiences will poison any advice that you will get here. I like reading this forum because there's occasionally a pretty good insight, or at the very least an interesting topic of conversation, but I haven't really gone here for advice in a long time. The advice you'll get here will either be overwhelmingly cynical and negative, or it will be far too optimistic if it comes from one of the few people here in a happy long-term relationship. A practical middle ground of advice will rarely be found here. I can count maybe 3 posters who meet this criteria on a regular basis.
Feelin Frisky Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 I think THIS site is engaging. I have no expectations, no frustrations, no bitterness, no delusions about what Internet forums amount to. I try not to judge my fellow posters and rarely if at ever congratulate myself that I'm not them. It's just a friendly pass time.
robdrm32 Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 Except that many people's negative experiences will poison any advice that you will get here. I like reading this forum because there's occasionally a pretty good insight, or at the very least an interesting topic of conversation, but I haven't really gone here for advice in a long time. The advice you'll get here will either be overwhelmingly cynical and negative, or it will be far too optimistic if it comes from one of the few people here in a happy long-term relationship. A practical middle ground of advice will rarely be found here. I can count maybe 3 posters who meet this criteria on a regular basis. Any advice you get from a human being will have bias based on their own life experiences. Whether that person is a close friend or stranger on the internet you have to take it for what it is, one perspective out of 6 billion. IMO a person you don't know is likely to give a more objective opinion, especially when they have no involvement in your life.
flying Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 I think there are a lot of very smart, thoughtful people here. But there are also a lot of angry people who just want to lash out to ease their own pain. And sometimes those people take over threads, and it's ugly. Don't see what's to be done about it, but I think that kind of pile-on can be detrimental.
AD1980 Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 To be honest this site has made me evne more paranoid of women and made me think there even more superficial then i thought
carhill Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 On the contrary, LS has caused me to see the light at the end of the divorce tunnel not to be an oncoming train of destruction and despair but rather the flashlight of the prison guard coming to guide me out into a healthier, sunshine-filled world. It has torn down many unhealthy pedestals. Provided clarity. Helped me enforce boundaries. Nothing is perfect, and LS is no exception, but that mirrors the reflection I see in the mirror every day. Accepting imperfection in an imperfect world. Choosing bitterness to be a temporary path rather than a unavoidable destination. Everyone takes away their own perspective on this place; at the end of the day, it is just some web space with a bunch of text for those who choose to read. Good on them for that
LucreziaBorgia Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 LS is like a Magic 8 Ball - you can give it a shake and see what answers come up for you and others to consider, think about them and use them to form your own answers as to what direction to take or... you can take the unfortunate path of letting your life be determined by those answers by taking them verbatim, or you can ignore them completely and let your life be torn apart by refusing to see more than the one side of things you want to see. It is only as harmful as you are to yourself in general, I guess. The key is to gather as many facets of a given situation as you can and look at them all to make your OWN answers.
GoodOnPaper Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 if you go by this site and others like this youd think most guys are whiny socially retarded peple who think talking to a women is like splitting the f'in atom I'm pretty sure I know more about splitting the atom than I know about women -- and I'm married . . . I was born a few years too early to get help from internet sites like LS while I was single. In my continuing quest to resolve issues that should have been put to rest a long time ago, I appreciate learning how and why I did everything wrong. Unfortunately, it's too late to apply much of it.
WalkingtheAbyss Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 So long as you take it for what it is, a discussion forum, then alls good in my eyes. You ask a question and you'll get a load of answers of which you can more than likely ignore 50%+ of them. Its very good to see that your not the only one going through an issue and also to get ideas of how to deal with your issues should you have any.
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