CM2009 Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 Hey LS Fam I meet a beautiful well educated woman at my cousin's wedding last month, we just started talking on the phone recently. I live in Charlotte, NC and she lives in Greensboro, NC which is about an hour and a half away. So earlier this week she asked me to tell her something about myself and I told her I was divorced with "NO KIDS" along with other little facts about myself. But ever since I told her that oddly enough our convo's have been to more of the text variety, and whenever I call she never picks up. I was just wondering if I probably scared her off or am I putting to much thought into this, maybe I should've held that part back for right now? Just wanted to get some advice, thanks!!
Cee Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 I'm confused by the "NO KIDS" part. Did you make a point that you disliked children and didn't want to have them? If so, it's possible that she saw that as a deal breaker. Lots of people want children. I don't want children and have been rejected on those grounds in the past.
Leigh 87 Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 I would not care if a man told me that he was divorced with no kids. What was the other " stuff" you told her about yourself? Most women would not be scared off by the dicorced part, if it was in the right context. It would be odd to just go up to a women and after 5 minutes, without even knowing her, saying randomly " hey, I am divorced with no kids". BUT if u said it in the approtrioate way I see no reason for most womrn to be scared off by it; of course there will be some women, and people fort that matter, that have issues with things that most people wouldn't care about. She could have been scared of by a normal thing due to her past life experiences, or you could have done something else that has steared her away. There is nothing you can do but try to maintain an even playing field; if she barley texts u and drops of the radar, then do not go sending a lot of texts to her! On the other hand, if she DOES start to act more interested, then go for it and show her that u feel the same way. It is only if she remains mutual, and DOEs still text, but not oftne enough to show an interest, that u need to come back to LS and askfor more advice!
Author CM2009 Posted September 10, 2010 Author Posted September 10, 2010 I'm confused by the "NO KIDS" part. Did you make a point that you disliked children and didn't want to have them? If so, it's possible that she saw that as a deal breaker. Lots of people want children. I don't want children and have been rejected on those grounds in the past. LOL when I made the statement "NO KIDS" that meant I don't have any kids from my ex spouse. We never talked about liking kids cause I felt it was to early about but I did make a point of saying I have a Godson, thats about it....
Author CM2009 Posted September 10, 2010 Author Posted September 10, 2010 I would not care if a man told me that he was divorced with no kids. What was the other " stuff" you told her about yourself? Most women would not be scared off by the dicorced part, if it was in the right context. It would be odd to just go up to a women and after 5 minutes, without even knowing her, saying randomly " hey, I am divorced with no kids". BUT if u said it in the approtrioate way I see no reason for most womrn to be scared off by it; of course there will be some women, and people fort that matter, that have issues with things that most people wouldn't care about. She could have been scared of by a normal thing due to her past life experiences, or you could have done something else that has steared her away. There is nothing you can do but try to maintain an even playing field; if she barley texts u and drops of the radar, then do not go sending a lot of texts to her! On the other hand, if she DOES start to act more interested, then go for it and show her that u feel the same way. It is only if she remains mutual, and DOEs still text, but not oftne enough to show an interest, that u need to come back to LS and askfor more advice! "I would not care if a man told me that he was divorced with no kids. What was the other " stuff" you told her about yourself? Most women would not be scared off by the dicorced part, if it was in the right context." I mean just basic stuff like what I like to do for fun, my educational background, work and stuff like that. Just the simple getting to know you stuff. I looked over my texts with her and I didn't see anything that would be considered as disrespectful. I don't think I was inappropriate how how I said it, I mean I do understand that thats something you might wanna share with a person early so it won't come out in another way. "There is nothing you can do but try to maintain an even playing field; if she barley texts u and drops of the radar, then do not go sending a lot of texts to her! On the other hand, if she DOES start to act more interested, then go for it and show her that u feel the same way." Nah I wouldn't go off blowing up her phone, cause I hate when people do that to mines, and I just put it in my mind after I tried to call yesterday that I'd calm down cause if their interested they'd either answer or call back.
loverofloveandstuff Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 Not sure about the 'no kids' thing but if she's she's not answering, don't call. Ball is in her court now. If she doesn't call within a week, forget her and move on.
GivenUp0083 Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 Hey LS Fam I meet a beautiful well educated woman at my cousin's wedding last month, we just started talking on the phone recently. I live in Charlotte, NC and she lives in Greensboro, NC which is about an hour and a half away. So earlier this week she asked me to tell her something about myself and I told her I was divorced with "NO KIDS" along with other little facts about myself. But ever since I told her that oddly enough our convo's have been to more of the text variety, and whenever I call she never picks up. I was just wondering if I probably scared her off or am I putting to much thought into this, maybe I should've held that part back for right now? Just wanted to get some advice, thanks!! There's not exactly a right answer to this question. You should definitely be open about being divorced early on. It shows honesty, and it's the struggles we've been through that makes us see you as a person and fall for one another. However, when someone asks you to tell them something about you, I wouldn't LEAD with being divorced. Tell them what kind of person you are, what you value, what you like to do. Wait until you're on a date or she asks about past relationships, THEN be open and honest about it. You hadn't even really been on dates with this girl yet and you're spilling out negative info that although is important to share, you don't barf it onto their lap before you've spent some time together. Yes, you scared her off, good luck, find a different girl to ask out.
Author CM2009 Posted September 10, 2010 Author Posted September 10, 2010 There's not exactly a right answer to this question. You should definitely be open about being divorced early on. It shows honesty, and it's the struggles we've been through that makes us see you as a person and fall for one another. However, when someone asks you to tell them something about you, I wouldn't LEAD with being divorced. Tell them what kind of person you are, what you value, what you like to do. Wait until you're on a date or she asks about past relationships, THEN be open and honest about it. You hadn't even really been on dates with this girl yet and you're spilling out negative info that although is important to share, you don't barf it onto their lap before you've spent some time together. Yes, you scared her off, good luck, find a different girl to ask out. Probably so, oh well lession learned!!!
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