Lucky555 Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 An ex of mine told me about q month ago that it didn't work out between him and I and he wanted to know if I was mad at him. I lied and said no just so I could close this chapter. After he and I had our differences we broke up then decided to see eachother again. So we were not official but seeing if it could work in the mean time he decided to have his ex in his house and proceed to have dinner with her. Well to me that's totally disrespectful. The next day he even contacted me as usual. So fast to now he chatted with me a week ago. He always contacts me every two weeks. I now figured that he is just keeping me around but i am still hurt from what he did four months ago. I felt like what we had meant nothing to him which could very well be the case. Anyways I am hoping he just stops. So the guy made it seem like he and I just needed tomcompromise to make time to see eachother. However i remember when we were together four months ago that I said let me know a day and I can plan. That never happened. I also told him how uncomfortable i am with an ex calling, emailing. Messaging, and visiting him. He basically told me goodluck with my life. I didn't say he had to lose a friendship that he claimed to have. He didn't do anything. So I have have not initiated contact. I know from posters on here that it is his actions!!!!!! He also told my brother that once im started working he would ask me to live with him. I think that was a lie to save his butt. So what can I do to get him completely out of my life. He comes and goes. It's never stable and I realized he never has cared about my interests. Should i tell him I don't think we should talk anymore or ignore him... I have Been avoiding him but I don't want him to think I'm mad it's more like he and I are not connecting. Help!
Allisha Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 Tell him. He clearly fails to see that you're uninterested.. you need to make sure he understands. Tell him, and then ignore him. It really is as simple as that.
Author Lucky555 Posted September 10, 2010 Author Posted September 10, 2010 So I have more... He and I are not connecting and I feel like he using me. He just Keeps contacting Me and I respond to him when he talks to me only because I don't want to ruin a friendship with him and my brother. But now I know it's time to stop letting myself down and I have to stop him. It just hurts too much and in feel the pain all over again. I thought maybe he would want us to work but it's evident from what in posted that he isn't into anserious relationship mode. I can't let myself be used for his own neeediness!
Allisha Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 So I have more... He and I are not connecting and I feel like he using me. He just Keeps contacting Me and I respond to him when he talks to me only because I don't want to ruin a friendship with him and my brother. But now I know it's time to stop letting myself down and I have to stop him. It just hurts too much and in feel the pain all over again. I thought maybe he would want us to work but it's evident from what in posted that he isn't into anserious relationship mode. I can't let myself be used for his own neeediness! If their "friendship" is a good one, then it wont bother either of them. & you know what, it seems like you've put up with hurt enough because of him, so sometimes you just have to think of number one (YOU), and do what needs to be done to save yourself more grief, and to **** with anyone who doesn't like it. tell him.
Author Lucky555 Posted September 10, 2010 Author Posted September 10, 2010 Thanks so the posts. I feel so much more confident in telling him not to contact me. It's like he lingers in and out of my life. He's not my friend and I don't need him disrupting my life or messing with my mind. He had chose to let his ex continue to linger in his life on an emotional level preventing him from becoming close to me. Why does he even bother because he enjoys it. I finally am ready to just say it. Plenty of time has gone by. I don't keep in touch with my exes and he is an ex. I just want to move on I was very manipulated and deformed in the relationship I truly thought he was ready to begin a real relationship. I want to stop being hurt and angry so can finally find peace and hopfully a better relationship. Again thanks
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