kberis Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 First off, sorry about the novel. I've been dabbling in the online dating world a little lately... As I get older, I have less and less time and desire to go out on the prowl. I saw an ad that I really liked, and replied to it. The emails started flying, then the text messages. After realizing that we had been in pretty much constant contact for about 24 hours (we were both reluctant to let the conversation go), we decided to meet up for coffee. After coffee, she came back to my place. We talked, nothing happened. The conversation continued through the next day. Keep in mind, I'm not the type of person that feels the need to chatter incessantly with one person all of the time. this is unusual for me. The next day, we realized that we quite coincidentally were going to be at the same place at the same time. we decided to skip it and hang out instead. I made dinner, we drank a bottle of wine and again, nothing but talking. I'm feeling pretty good about things at this point. After that, the conversation turns a lot more distinctly to flirting. All day. I haven't done this before, ever. Usually, I'm there when we're together, but otherwise focused on whatever is in front of me, not constantly texting like a smitten schoolgirl. So, when she invites me over to her place for dinner, I'm gung-ho. I don't think it's an invitation to anything but dinner, and I'm happy with that. We watch a movie, have a few drinks, some more great conversation. Then, there's a moment. I feel it, I can tell she feels it, so I kiss her. Best. Kiss. Ever. The next morning, she tells me I'm an amazing kisser, and is as flirty as ever. Then, she goes silent for most of the day. That night, we talk again and she tells me that the night before, she had realized two things: 1) as crazy as it seems, I have become very important to her in the short time we have know eachother and 2) she's not ready for a romantic relationship. She doesn't want me to be a rebound. We continue chatting, a little awkwardly at first, but slowly working back into the previous flirty banter. We're planning on meeting up for coffee again this afternoon. I like this woman a lot, and am happy to be her friend. I have every intention of just sitting back and going along for the ride, but I'm having a hard time figuring out what exactly it is she wants from me. Had we known eachother longer I would just ask, but we don't quite have that level of intimacy yet. So, do I put her in solidly in the "friend" box and keep up the hunt for a girlfriend, or do I give this some time to see what develops?
In_Repair Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 You gotta rock out with your cock out, man. You kept junior in the playpen too long. You can't act like their friend unless that's what you want to be. Friendly yes, but you don't sit around talking and drinking wine late into the night without making a move. That's what friends do.
Author kberis Posted September 9, 2010 Author Posted September 9, 2010 (edited) Very good point, but I'm not one to rush things. Especially not when dealing with someone relatively freshly out of an LTR. Edited September 9, 2010 by kberis
Recommended Posts