U1987 Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 I want to meet girls on campus. Can I just be direct? It's just that I'm so tired of the PUA "routines" and "canned material." It's so cliched and overdone (what girl HASN'T heard "Do you believe in spells?"), and it feels unnatural. On the few occasions I have the guts to do it, I'm so worried and self-conscious that I'm coming off as obnoxious or weird rather than interesting. Besides, that stuff seems more appropriate for nightclubs. But at the same time, I'm so tired of falling into the stale old "Hey, I'm ______. What's your name? What's your major? What do you do?" routine. Girls will here that from a thousand guys and I feel like she'll be put to sleep if I do it again and think I'm not interesting at all. What can I do? Can I just be direct? If I see a cute girl on campus, either sitting on a bench or at a table, having lunch, reading or smoking a cigarette, can I just go up and say, "Hey. Listen, this is going to sound totally crazy but hear me out. I saw you from over there, and I thought to myself 'hey she's pretty cute. I should go talk to her.' But then I thought 'she looks busy, and she probably has a boyfriend.' But then I realized that if I didn't come and talk to you, I was going to feel like a wimp all day. So here I am. I'm _______ by the way."
DontStopMeNow Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 I want to meet girls on campus. Can I just be direct? It's just that I'm so tired of the PUA "routines" and "canned material." It's so cliched and overdone (what girl HASN'T heard "Do you believe in spells?"), and it feels unnatural. On the few occasions I have the guts to do it, I'm so worried and self-conscious that I'm coming off as obnoxious or weird rather than interesting. Besides, that stuff seems more appropriate for nightclubs. But at the same time, I'm so tired of falling into the stale old "Hey, I'm ______. What's your name? What's your major? What do you do?" routine. Girls will here that from a thousand guys and I feel like she'll be put to sleep if I do it again and think I'm not interesting at all. What can I do? Can I just be direct? If I see a cute girl on campus, either sitting on a bench or at a table, having lunch, reading or smoking a cigarette, can I just go up and say, "Hey. Listen, this is going to sound totally crazy but hear me out. I saw you from over there, and I thought to myself 'hey she's pretty cute. I should go talk to her.' But then I thought 'she looks busy, and she probably has a boyfriend.' But then I realized that if I didn't come and talk to you, I was going to feel like a wimp all day. So here I am. I'm _______ by the way." I see no reason why you can't ask any girl you see out. The worst they can say is no. You might get rejected more often than not and it will feel awkward for 5 minutes, but the odd girl will say yes. I don't really see any way around the typical 'get to know you' type conversations at first. Anything else usually comes off as weird. After a few minutes of talking, once you've figured out some things you have in common or things she's interested in, you can use those topics to make the conversation better.
USMCHokie Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 Situational conversation. That means you talk about things that are going on around you. There's nothing "canned" about it and it won't seem like you're "coming out of nowhere"... It will show your social confidence and give you something to actually talk about...after you've established some sort of rapport with the girl, introduce yourself...and the rest is up to you...
Author U1987 Posted September 9, 2010 Author Posted September 9, 2010 Situational conversation. That means you talk about things that are going on around you. There's nothing "canned" about it and it won't seem like you're "coming out of nowhere"... It will show your social confidence and give you something to actually talk about...after you've established some sort of rapport with the girl, introduce yourself...and the rest is up to you... Like what? I can't just go up and say "Hey, nice weather," or "Hey, nice paving," can I?
DontStopMeNow Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 Like what? I can't just go up and say "Hey, nice weather," or "Hey, nice paving," can I? Just look at what she's doing. If she's using an IPod, ask what she's listening to. If she's reading or studying something, talk about that. If she's eating something, talk about that.
USMCHokie Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 Just look at what she's doing. If she's using an IPod, ask what she's listening to. If she's reading or studying something, talk about that. If she's eating something, talk about that. Yep. Or even better, something that you're both doing...
Author U1987 Posted September 9, 2010 Author Posted September 9, 2010 Just look at what she's doing. If she's using an IPod, ask what she's listening to. If she's reading or studying something, talk about that. If she's eating something, talk about that. How do you ask about what a girl's reading without looking like a total creeper? How are you supposed to know what she's reading without looking like a total creeper?
meerkat stew Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 Like what? I can't just go up and say "Hey, nice weather," or "Hey, nice paving," can I? "Hey can you see my nipples through this shirt? some people were giggling at me in class" "Excuse me, do you have any duct tape? Electrical tape? Phillips Head screwdriver? ...well what do you have?" "Do you have a lighter? I don't smoke, just thinking about burning down that building over there." "Hey, gimme your lunch money." "Are you an ant farmer by chance?" "My sea monkeys had a litter, and I'm trying to find a good home for them, would you like a cute sea monkey?... Only $600" "Don't sign up for that shock experiment no matter how much they are paying." then have a bit of a seizure. OK maybe not.
USMCHokie Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 How do you ask about what a girl's reading without looking like a total creeper? How are you supposed to know what she's reading without looking like a total creeper? You don't. I'm not suggesting that you randomly cold approach women (which of course you can if you want...) and talk about something situational. You should have already made some sort of contact or have something in common at that moment in time. The example I like to use to illustrate this is when I was waiting in line for a costume 4 pm on Halloween Day last year. It was a mad house and the line was long as crap with tons of people waiting until the last minute to buy their costumes. So I'm waiting there and see this girl standing behind me. We exchanged a few glances, so I commented to her about how crazy the line was. Then I asked her which costume she was going to get and what her backups were in case they ran out. She asked me the same thing. Then we talked about what we were going to do for Halloween. The conversation then naturally flowed to where we lived in the area and what we did for work. By then, we had talked for about 10 minutes and reached the head of the line where we got our costumes and went our separate ways. All you do is start with something simple and then go from there. Once you've established a rapport with her, then you can start to ask more personal questions.
Green Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 I want to meet girls on campus. Can I just be direct? Yeah Direct could work. (you see a girl you like) "Hi" (you say hi and then get to the point) "Lets get lunch at this great place I know" (if she says no to lunch ask her out to dinner and if that doesn't work just get her contact info [cell would be best] and try again later) If you do get her to go on any kind of date like activity including a walk, cofee, food ect... YOU MAKE MOVES... you KISS her before the date is over. Don't say goodbye with out atleast one LIP KISS> don't ask for the kiss just do it. It's just that I'm so tired of the PUA "routines" and "canned material." It's so cliched and overdone (what girl HASN'T heard "Do you believe in spells?")' date=' and it feels unnatural. On the few occasions I have the guts to do it, I'm so worried and self-conscious that I'm coming off as obnoxious or weird rather than interesting. Besides, that stuff seems more appropriate for nightclubs. [/quote'] Well PUA material isn't natural. Really it should only be read for motivation and entertainment and not taken seriously... You already know everything you need to know like 1) you need to ask girls out 2) Being afraid or stressed out instead of having fun is pointless 3) Rejection means nothing and girls like guys who seem not to care... who don't seem fragile to rejection 4) you need to play the numbers game and not get stuck in a rut where you obsess about one girl you arn't serious with or have just stopped trying play the numbers and 5) Make moves... don't be the castrated A-sexual version of yourself... be the version of yourself you want to be the one who TOUCHES and kissES AND fckS You pretty much have to come of creepy, abnoxious gross what ever if you even want to attempt to be romantic with a girl. Just stop worrying and caring how you look and TRY! by the way nightclubs should only be for having a fun time like dancing or hanging out with friends. I'm all for hitting on girls at nightclubs but really don't expect or count on anything lasting to come from that environment. Your school is your best tool at this time. If you wernt in school I would suggest going to the mall or girls in the supermarket or what ever women are all around. But at the same time, I'm so tired of falling into the stale old "Hey, I'm ______. What's your name? What's your major? What do you do?" routine. Girls will here that from a thousand guys and I feel like she'll be put to sleep if I do it again and think I'm not interesting at all. What can I do? Can I just be direct? seriously dude just walk up and say what ever... the more you do it the more you'll figure it out... figure out WHO YOU ARE and what works for you... but Failure is the best way to learn and you seem to be so afraid of getting rejected. Just start asking women out. If I see a cute girl on campus' date=' either sitting on a bench or at a table, having lunch, reading or smoking a cigarette, can I just go up and say, "Hey. Listen, this is going to sound totally crazy but hear me out. I saw you from over there, and I thought to myself 'hey she's pretty cute. I should go talk to her.' But then I thought 'she looks busy, and she probably has a boyfriend.' But then I realized that if I didn't come and talk to you, I was going to feel like a wimp all day. So here I am. I'm _______ by the way." [/quote'] Dude that is an over the top canned line. You need to just speak NORMAL the way you speak to your guy friends... except unlike your guy friends your going to be thinking of fun things for YOU to enjoy that gets her alone with you and give you an oportunity to TOUCH ANDKISS HER ect... Just stop jacking off and get really horny and let that be your motivator. Imagine these girls naked with their legs around you and let that calm ur nerves. If you go up to these girls and all you can think of saying is "Nice BACK PACK!" and then you lamely say "LETS DO LUNCH!" then atleast your trying and you will get better at being yourself... plus that takes balls and its not even like you ruin ur chances for life with these girls... you can ask the same girl out at some later date in the semester and her answer can change from NO to YES so stop worrying and making thins seem worse then they are and give us some UPDATES of how you actualy TRIED something. We can give you any advice accept the obvious sht GO TRY. Remember 1) spot girl you think is pretty 2) have small short conversation about anything... don't make it canned... what evers on ur mind at the moment... talk about FARTS if thats all that comes to mind u get the picture. 3) ASK HER OUT... even if you feel the conversation went no where and she looks bored/upset whatever still DON'T CHICKEN out do what you came there for and ask her out 4) whether she says yes or no pull out ur phone and get her contact info.. settle for fb or email if u have to but phone is better (remember the focus is on the ask out not the phone number if you just ask a girl for her number but you don't ask her out in person that is a chicken move and numbers mean nothing) 5)When your on the date or what ever you want to call it MAKE MOVES don't be a priest... do what you came there for FLIRT/TOUCH/KISS... don't let the date end without kissing by the way DO COLD APROACHES but... parties and clubs, and friends of friends and CLASS is the best way to meet girls. In class for example say I need a study session.. but do it real flirty and then Kiss her on the study session u get the point
Green Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 Like what? I can't just go up and say "Hey, nice weather," or "Hey, nice paving," can I? Yes if thats all that comes to mind thats great. I got invited to a VERY PRETTY girls apartment just for saying "Nice weather" seriously thats how it all started. But dude you can figure this out its actualy working against u to sit here and analyze every detail... just do it Just look at what she's doing. If she's using an IPod, ask what she's listening to. If she's reading or studying something, talk about that. If she's eating something, talk about that. This is good to. Yep. Or even better, something that you're both doing... This would be best. How do you ask about what a girl's reading without looking like a total creeper? How are you supposed to know what she's reading without looking like a total creeper? Some times you just have to risk looking like a "creeper." By the way creep is a girl word and you really shouldn't worry about it. A girl once called me a creep when I tried talking to her at a party... I was making out with her a few moments later.
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