Insomniac_310 Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 I met a guy, only 2 weeks ago. We have been out on 3 dates and on Labor day he came to a family bbq and met my entire family. He seems like a great guy so far. He has been attentive, and very affectionate. We have kissed and I am attracted to him, but not that much... I don't feel the crazy attraction I usually get and I don't know if its an emotional wall that I'm putting up because I'm afraid of getting hurt or what. I have been hurt deeply in the past by men, and I seem to only really feel "chemistry" with men that are emotionally unavailable or men that are not good for me. He seems to be the opposite of that. I do want a stable, healthy relationship. I'm 30 and I want to get married and have kids one day with a good man. The other night we were watching television and talking, he asked me if I I thought he was going to hurt me. I didn't want to get to far into my issues with being hurt but I did tell him it takes time to earn my trust. It hasn't been long that we have been seeing one another and I don't want to scare him away. I like him and at times I do feel "butterflies" but its when I'm waiting for him to call or text me.. its like the anticipation is what excites me and than it goes away. I almost feel a little "crazy" for feeling this way. I guess I don't really have a question but more so looking for advice...
Leigh 87 Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 Stick with him for a while, and in time, you will know if you NEED him in your life, in that way. Try not to over think things; DO you need him in a relationship? Do you HAVE to be with him? As I said, if he seams nice, then that is great, it is good to have a ncie guy. But you do not NEED to have a partner, so in time, make sure that u NEEd to be with him; do not justs tick around because he seams nice, and you getexcited when he texts u. It is natural to feel, you know, that ncie feeling of anticipation when waiting for texts and etc. But that does not mean you NEED HIM as a partner. unless uc annot live without him in that way, leave him. Again, it may take a while to realize if you really do NEED him, in a way that goes deaper than a normal friendship.
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