lilbunny Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 Not for me this one (genuinely it isn't one of those "I have this friend..." threads) I have just never really been either that interested or that good at the dating scene and they are leaning on me for advice. She recently goy back in contact with a man she dated briefly about 4 years ago. He had been in a LTR for a while, but was recently single. They had loosely stayed in touch for that time, the odd text and stuff, but as far as I know hadn't seen each other since. Anyway they started hanging out, slept together a couple of times (not sure how far in that happened). He was meant to see her on Friday night, he suggested staying in and I think she pushed to go out for dinner. He seemed up for that. She got a message on Friday evening saying his grandma had taken a bad turn and he had to go to her care home, he was really sorry and would call as soon as he could. We are fairly sure that it was true that he is the only relative living in the area. She texted back and said it was no problem and to get in touch when he could. She heard nothing and sent a text on Sunday asking if he was ok, kind of fearing the worst had happened. Still no reply. Tonight on facebook he posted something about drinking beer with his mates and was very jolly. I don't really know what to say about this. My take is he is a real piece of work who lied about his grandma's illness to get out of the date and give her the brush off because all he was after was getting laid and just wanted to come over for sex, but I am feeling quite bitter and twisted towards the opposite sex and am bound to be harsh. Do men really come up with these elaborate and cruel lies? Why didn't he just say he was done, or turn down the date in the first place? She isn't the type to go all crazy or anything! Any thoughts? Is my assessment fair?
USMCHokie Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 Hahah, grandma's mysterious illness, that's a good one...yea, from a guy's perspective, that simply screams booty call... And yes, some guys will do that...but the good ones don't...and certainly would never use grandma as an excuse... Your friend dodged a bullet there...
Serenitynow Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 Do men really come up with these elaborate and cruel lies? Why didn't he just say he was done, or turn down the date in the first place? Yes they do ! And usually since GUYS do most of the initiating, they have got plenty of ideas from the women that give fake excuses. So obviously the guys are just regurgitating the BS back to the source. .
Author lilbunny Posted September 7, 2010 Author Posted September 7, 2010 Yes they do ! And usually since GUYS do most of the initiating, they have got plenty of ideas from the women that give fake excuses. So obviously the guys are just regurgitating the BS back to the source. . Interesting indeed. I call a spade a spade, in fact I'd say I can be a bit blunt. The bit I can't explain was why bs at all, I mean all other signs tell me he won't be back in touch and has kind of exposed the lie via facebook anyway, so why not be upfront, she really is the type who would shrug her shoulders and move on!
Serenitynow Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 (edited) in fact I'd say I can be a bit blunt. So many people think they are blunt and upfront, yet I cant find any of these people in real life. Do you really think anyone is going to say, i just wanted to hit it, so thanks, have a nice life. The same reason when you go on a date, at the end, people lie and say "I had a good time, lets do this again." VERY few people have the balls to say thanks but no thanks face to face. All this BS is one of the main reasons I cant get a date. I refuse to play along, so I'll just wait till a woman comes along that sees eye 2 eye with me. . Edited September 7, 2010 by Serenitynow
Author lilbunny Posted September 7, 2010 Author Posted September 7, 2010 So many people think they are blunt and upfront, yet I cant find any of these people in real life. Do you really think anyone is going to say, i just wanted to hit it, so thanks, have a nice life. No I can see that, but she said she didn't really mind if it that was all it was, but he seemed to push it initially. The same reason when you go on a date, at the end, people lie and say "I had a good time, lets do this again." Ooops I really wouldn't know not to do that. VERY few people have the balls to say thanks but no thanks face to face. All this BS is one of the main reasons I cant get a date. I refuse to play along, so I'll just wait till a woman comes along that sees eye 2 eye with me. . I don't think I like the sounds of this way of dating. I've never 'dated' as such. I have only ever got involved with people I knew anyway and pretty much fallen into short or long term relationships with them. I'd be crap at the dating 'scene' as it were, I think I am the worst person in the world to ask for advice!!
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