is it that he's just not that into me? idk

[shiftedblue]

There's this guy I've known a few months now; he's a musician, like a local-celebrity type. We have a sorta-flirtation going via texts and stuff but it's infrequent. I also am going through a break up; it was a long term relationship that ended. This guy I like knows about everything I'm going thru with the breakup.

 

So anyway, long story short, this guy I like is really hard to get a hold of. He's always busy. Also, there is no shortage of girls going after him. It's not even that he's the best looking guy in the world..he's really cute but his charming personality and intelligence puts him over the edge of attractiveness. He says all this flirtatious stuff to me and then disappears...I have yet to touch him, kiss him, or anything, and I've only met up with him one-on-one once, months ago. Otherwise I've seen him at parties/bars, at which time he flirted with me. Never went further than that.

 

I am infatuated with him.

 

Should I try and just let go and play the field a little...seeing as I haven't been single in a while? Cuz apparently this guy is in no rush to see me...sigh

[USMCHokie]

...his charming personality and intelligence puts him over the edge of attractiveness. He says all this flirtatious stuff to me and then disappears...

 

Of course he'll harmlessly flirt with you...charming guys almost instinctfually do that sorta thing...

 

 

Should I try and just let go and play the field a little...seeing as I haven't been single in a while? Cuz apparently this guy is in no rush to see me...sigh

 

Yes. If the guy is worth a damn and was truly interested, or even slightly interested, he would have asked you out on a date. Sorry, but you should move on...

[shiftedblue]

well i certainly appreciate the honesty

[MrNate]

There's this guy I've known a few months now; he's a musician, like a local-celebrity type. We have a sorta-flirtation going via texts and stuff but it's infrequent. I also am going through a break up; it was a long term relationship that ended. This guy I like knows about everything I'm going thru with the breakup.

 

So anyway, long story short, this guy I like is really hard to get a hold of. He's always busy. Also, there is no shortage of girls going after him. It's not even that he's the best looking guy in the world..he's really cute but his charming personality and intelligence puts him over the edge of attractiveness. He says all this flirtatious stuff to me and then disappears...I have yet to touch him, kiss him, or anything, and I've only met up with him one-on-one once, months ago. Otherwise I've seen him at parties/bars, at which time he flirted with me. Never went further than that.

 

My brother from another mother (USMC) is on point as always.

 

Well, like you said, he's not short of women at all. As such, he is likely getting all the perks of relationships with absolutely no commitment required, so he might not be so willing to give up that lifestyle right now. Even highly desired men have a way of prioritizing a woman they're interested in, but from what you told us (infrequent texts, etc.) I don't think he views you as such.

 

 

I am infatuated with him.

For your own emotional benefits, I'd try to lose this mentality as quick as possible, to lessen the impact of possible disappointment.

 

Should I try and just let go and play the field a little...seeing as I haven't been single in a while? Cuz apparently this guy is in no rush to see me...sigh

Yes. He's just not that into you.

[USMCHokie]

My brother from another mother (USMC) is on point as always.

 

Hahah, I love it.

[yamanbt]

He's definitely not into you.

[O'Malley]

You just have to take a different attitude towards his flirting. It's more of a light hearted ego feed for him than any serious interest, and it's possibly the same way he approaches some other women fans -- he doesn't take it seriously and probably assumes the same for you.

 

It's fun for a little ego boosting of your own, but redirect your focus towards meeting other guys.

[Star Gazer]

Should I try and just let go and play the field a little...seeing as I haven't been single in a while?

 

Yes, because you ARE single, and he's clearly playing the field too. He knows where to find you if his interest ever develops, but don't bother waiting by the phone. Go out and enjoy yourself!