revan1013 Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 Hey everyone, first post, long time reader. I've been dating this wonderful girl for almost seven months now. We moved in together around the two month mark, and we're about to move into our own apartment by ourselves in a few weeks. At first, I wasn't very excited about dating her. But she was so nice and golden-hearted that I figured I'd give it a shot. We got closer and now she's my best companion and a great friend. She's there for me no matter what happens, and she's already been there through some tough times. I've done the same for her, and we've already been through quite a bit together. She's even ok with long distance since I'll be getting deployed eventually. She's a rare find. We get along very well. Our daily life basically consists of seeing each other late at night since she works and goes to school. We go on vacations together on weekends and have a blast. Yet I get bouts of uncontrollable doubt about this relationship. I feel like no matter how great she is and how good she is for me on an objective level (no cheating, very honest, domestic, loyal, great companion, good sex) ... I still get these moments of extreme doubt. I've had more exciting relationships in the past, and it's hard not to compare her to others. She's much more passive, relaxed, and laid back, and not as book-smart as other girls I've dated in the past. Sometimes I find myself wanting more. I had a girl on match.com message me not too long ago, and although I'm unavailable, the conversations we had really excited me. It made me doubt my relationship all over again. This feeling goes away after a few days, then comes back every few weeks. I hate feeling this way, because we really do have such a good relationship. I haven't been able to shake the feeling that I'm missing out on something better, even though my current relationship is very good. I have a mature, adult, loyal companion. Shouldn't that be enough? Shouldn't I be happy? Is there something I'm missing? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Author revan1013 Posted September 7, 2010 Author Posted September 7, 2010 Edit- So I've spoken with various family members who say I should probably stick with it, since it's rare to find someone so perfect in those things that make a long-term relationship work. Someone pointed out to me that my past gf's were all a bit crazy, and I had to chase them a bit. I miss the hunt. I miss some drama and excitement. I thought I was more mature than that, but maybe not. Any advice?
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