lookingforyou Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 I have a new tennis coach I see three times a week. As we interact more, I come to realize that he can be quite flirty. I'm not sure if he's a flirty person or to read more into it. I'm not interested in him. But I wonder if it's common for two people who see each other on a regular basis to be a little flirty or friendly-flirty? Or am I unwittingly reading too much into this?
Author lookingforyou Posted September 7, 2010 Author Posted September 7, 2010 Anyone has an insight on this?
MrNate Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 He could be interested in you. Is he flirting to the point it's uncomfortable?
Author lookingforyou Posted September 7, 2010 Author Posted September 7, 2010 He could be interested in you. Is he flirting to the point it's uncomfortable? Not uncomfortable but I was surprised by it. I can't differentiate between whether he was genuinely interested or he does that to his students/clients as part of his job. Or he's just a flirty person by nature.
jamesum Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 Men were built to want to have sex with anyone he at least finds averagely attractive. When he is being flirty with you just remember its his penis doing that. Simply ignore him. Its beyond his control.
Author lookingforyou Posted September 7, 2010 Author Posted September 7, 2010 Men were built to want to have sex with anyone he at least finds averagely attractive. When he is being flirty with you just remember its his penis doing that. Simply ignore him. Its beyond his control. So it's really flirting? I don't mean it's good or bad. But I always thought people in sales or sales-related industries do that, not necessarily because they find the women attractive. They do that for a living.
GooseChaser Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 I was in a karate class a year ago where the teacher, who was much older, wanted to date me. I am 21, and he wouldn't tell me his age (he thought it shouldn't matter), but he appeared to be in his thirties or forties. I stopped going to the class. Your coach could be interested, even if he is older. Keep your eyes open for more signs. If you can, see what he does around other clients, or if you want to be direct, ask him about it.
Author lookingforyou Posted September 7, 2010 Author Posted September 7, 2010 I was in a karate class a year ago where the teacher, who was much older, wanted to date me. I am 21, and he wouldn't tell me his age (he thought it shouldn't matter), but he appeared to be in his thirties or forties. I stopped going to the class. Your coach could be interested, even if he is older. If you can, see what he does around other clients, or if you want to be direct, ask him about it. I don't always have the chance to see him around other clients. I find it awkward to ask people if they're flirting with me because they could be clueless about it (flirt by nature).
GooseChaser Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 If you asked him, and he said he wasn't flirting or that it came naturally and didn't have a special meaning behind it, your question would be answered, though! You don't have to make it a big deal. In what kind of ways does he flirt?
Author lookingforyou Posted September 7, 2010 Author Posted September 7, 2010 If you asked him, and he said he wasn't flirting or that it came naturally and didn't have a special meaning behind it, your question would be answered, though! You don't have to make it a big deal. In what kind of ways does he flirt? Include terms of endearment, how he looks forward to seeing me, asking about things I like, self-invites to join me for coffee after lesson etc.
GooseChaser Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 Include terms of endearment, how he looks forward to seeing me, asking about things I like, self-invites to join me for coffee after lesson etc. In my opinion: - Terms of endearment-- could be innocent, depends on the terms and his feelings - Looks forward to seeing you-- innocent, he sounds like a nice coach - Asking about things you like-- wants to get to know you better, could want to build rapport with you as a coach, could be innocent - Joins you for coffee-- interesting... Have good conversations with him there? Have you noticed his body language and what it could be telling you?
Author lookingforyou Posted September 7, 2010 Author Posted September 7, 2010 In my opinion: - Terms of endearment-- could be innocent, depends on the terms and his feelings - Looks forward to seeing you-- innocent, he sounds like a nice coach - Asking about things you like-- wants to get to know you better, could want to build rapport with you as a coach, could be innocent - Joins you for coffee-- interesting... Have good conversations with him there? Have you noticed his body language and what it could be telling you? We chat like friends. I don't mind chatting with him since he's like a friend to me. Not much about the body language since I'm not an expert. Just that he's a caring person. But it could be just that he's a gentleman and believes in taking care of a woman.
GooseChaser Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 We chat like friends. I don't mind chatting with him since he's like a friend to me. Not much about the body language since I'm not an expert. Just that he's a caring person. But it could be just that he's a gentleman and believes in taking care of a woman. He sounds like he's just a nice person then. That's good. Would it bother you if he was interested in more?
Author lookingforyou Posted September 7, 2010 Author Posted September 7, 2010 He sounds like he's just a nice person then. That's good. Would it bother you if he was interested in more? A little because I find it tacky to be involved with coaches of any sort. And I wouldn't be able to shake off the idea that he could treat other students/clients similarly.
dispatch3d Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 meh I'm flirty for fun. So if I were the tennis coach nahhhh it's kinda natural....
Author lookingforyou Posted September 7, 2010 Author Posted September 7, 2010 meh I'm flirty for fun. So if I were the tennis coach nahhhh it's kinda natural.... LOL. So it's just natural flirting for you? Not because you're attracted to any particular student/client?
jamesum Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 So are you asking this because you are interested in him also or not? Coz it seems you are.
Author lookingforyou Posted September 7, 2010 Author Posted September 7, 2010 So are you asking this because you are interested in him also or not? Coz it seems you are. In my previous posts, I've said why I'm unlikely to be interested in him. I'm asking because I want to know how to react to avoid this.
callingyouuu Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 In my previous posts, I've said why I'm unlikely to be interested in him. Unlikely to be interested isn't the same as not interested. I'm asking because I want to know how to react to avoid this. Is it really making you that uncomfortable?
Author lookingforyou Posted September 7, 2010 Author Posted September 7, 2010 Unlikely to be interested isn't the same as not interested. Is it really making you that uncomfortable? It's not uncomfortable at this stage. But if it starts to be, I may have to find another coach.
jamesum Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 Oh, women. For them there is no such a thing as unwanted attention ...
Lovebone Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 wierd. this sounds just like a story from penthouse forum i read on the crapper like 15 minutes ago. is your name by any chance Felicity?
Author lookingforyou Posted September 7, 2010 Author Posted September 7, 2010 wierd. this sounds just like a story from penthouse forum i read on the crapper like 15 minutes ago. is your name by any chance Felicity? Not at all. Care to share the story here?
Lovebone Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 Not at all. Care to share the story here? Joke. Tennis coach? Cmon, it just sounds like a 70's porno. Sorry....I thought it was funny. but at 3 in the morning, what's NOT funny?
Author lookingforyou Posted September 7, 2010 Author Posted September 7, 2010 Joke. Tennis coach? Cmon, it just sounds like a 70's porno. Sorry....I thought it was funny. but at 3 in the morning, what's NOT funny? Oh, I didn't realize the effect of the "tennis coach" part. No, it's not porn. It would probably have been easier solved if it wasn't real.
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