Scarlett513 Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 I met this guy through a friend of mine a few weeks ago, and I'm trying to figure out if he might be interested without making a fool of myself since we do share mutual friends. When we met I thought he was being flirtatious and *very* friendly but he does seem to be a generally outgoing person so I thought it was probably nothing. The following week my friend mentioned that the guy told her to invite me to come up (I live an hr and a half from them) for a group outting that weekend. I did go, my friend and I were the only 2 girls in a group of guys including the guy I'm talking about and my friend's husband. That same week my friend started making comments about how I should date a guy who lives near her and how her guy friends are such great guys and to let her know if I want to be hooked up with one of them. I of course laughed it off bc I didn't want to give myself away. Anyway he was again very friendly and all but nothing I could get a good read on. That night we were at a party and he didn't really socialize with me too much, but when he did he was flirty and talkative. He was also sort of touchy feely with me, but there was one point where he stopped a conversation we were having to go talk to someone else and he also left the party with some friends to go to a bar. We were invited but didn't go. I think if he was interested he wouldn't have done those things. Of course when he left I was sitting with another (male) friend pretty closely, but that guy is just a good friend. So I'm pretty convinced he's not interested. I friended him on Facebook along with a few others and he's accepted. I'm debating sending him a short friendly message thanking him for including me as a last ditch effort to see if I get a response. Is that too much, or a good idea? I don't see what it could hurt but I don't wanna go overboard if I should just let it go. Also I don't know if my friend has told this guy anything about my recent romantic situation, which consists of an on off (now permanently off) and very unhealthy relationship.
bobdole Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 You don't mention how you reacted towards his flirts. If you didn't return them he probably wrote you off and left to go to the bar..
Author Scarlett513 Posted September 6, 2010 Author Posted September 6, 2010 I thought I reciprocated, but I know from past experience that sometimes I can be hard to read, because I'm afraid of coming on too strong. In this instance I was being careful not to pay him too much attention. I didn't want our friends all thinking I was chasing after some guy who is probably out of my league.
Gallaxia Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 So you catch up with him on FB and friend him. Did he say "what's up?" or any add type of message? "Hey what's up?" or "Good to see you at the party?" Or just accept the request? Maybe he thought, at the party, you weren't all that interested?
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