whattothink Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 I dated this guy for a short time, he said there was no spark, wanted to stay friends, the first time we hang out after that we ended up making out (it was hot). He never kissed me when we were dating, then we stayed friends but ended up sleeping together over the weekend. I really like being in his space. Is there anyway to casually inquire if we could try things slowly without him thinking I'm the clingy girl after sex? We get along too well (w/o the intimacy but that is great too) to not at least ask and I don't want to regret not asking later.
Don Ho Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 I dated this guy for a short time, he said there was no spark, wanted to stay friends, the first time we hang out after that we ended up making out (it was hot). He never kissed me when we were dating, then we stayed friends but ended up sleeping together over the weekend. I really like being in his space. Is there anyway to casually inquire if we could try things slowly without him thinking I'm the clingy girl after sex? We get along too well (w/o the intimacy but that is great too) to not at least ask and I don't want to regret not asking later. NO!! Do not ask do not inquire. You have to just assume that he's just not that into you. Ok, you had a heated moment. I think that's about all there is to it. IF you're ok with being FWB, fine. If not, move on and find a guy that really wants to be with you. I think you're just asking for trouble if you expect more.
DazednConfused Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 Hiya Think; I really hate to say this out loud, but it seems to me that this guy dated you a time or two, decided you weren't relationship material, and being a decent human being threw out the friend card. Then, you hang out "as friends" and suddenly he is attracted to your body... the pressure is off for a relationship and so you both took what you wanted in the moment. By all means, talk w/ him about perhaps dating again, I have on more than one occasion thought there was no spark at first and felt one grow over time... I hope this is the case if you like this guy. But I have a sneaking suspicion you're gonna find he still just wants to be friends and you two simply enjoyed a brief encounter of physical lust. No harm no foul. You won't know if you don't investigate tho. -Dazed
2sunny Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 he's willing to use you for sex - as long as you don't want any commitment from him. that says enough right there. stop letting him use you! you should want more for yourself than that...
Author whattothink Posted September 6, 2010 Author Posted September 6, 2010 Thanks all! I appreciate your feedback. As much as I want to ask, I won't. Have a great rest of the long weekend!
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