Fight with Girlfriend, she needs time

[wnec]

Ok so my girlfriend and i have been going out for a little over a year and two months now. We've had our ups and downs along the way, but for the most part we've shared a very happy relationship. We are both in college, entering our sophomore years at different schools, about 2 hours apart from one another. Last year, we did our best to visit one another on weekends and it worked out for the most part. We had our share of conflicts, but we always seemed to work through them.

 

Well i just left for school last weekend, while she didn't leave until today. I thought everything was going fine until thursday night. Now let me say, we've talked every single night since i've been here and have texted throughout every day. Thursday night, my friends were hanging out and i was stuck doing hw until i finished and could go hang out. I called her because she was good at the hw i was doing and she helped me to finish it. When i finished, i told her i would call her a little later i was going to go hang out with my friends.

 

I left my phone apart from me, which was a mistake but i needed to let it charge. Anyways, when i got back which was no more than 2 hours later i had a text from her about my priorities. We talked for several hours on the phone after that, about how she felt like she was coming second to my friends. I told her that if i couldn't talk to her all the time, i would always call her later when i could. I dug myself deeper by using some stupid phrases, telling her if i was in the middle of a game it would be "rude for me to leave and go talk to her and i would call her when i was done" which i always did... Also i said that some of it was in her mind because she always came first in my mind.

 

We talked some more the next day and that just seemed to make things get worse. We finished the conversation friday afternoon saying that we would not talk again until saturday and take the night to relax. Unfortuneitly my emotions got the better of me and i sent her a long email basically explaining everything and apologizing for everything that i had said/done. She emailed me back that she didn't want me to email her and thought we weren't going to have any contact that night. She was even more upset.

 

The next day i texted her when i woke up and said and i quote: "Good morning. Sorry about the email, take all the time you need".

 

Four hours later i got the response from her, "Ok". And that was it. I haven't heard from her since that text message.

 

I know its her turn to make the next move but its killing me. I am physically feeling heart broken. I just want anyones opinion on where your guess would be i am. Do you think her response and need for time is a sign that she is done with me?

 

Like i've said, we've had our conflicts in the past but never anything this bad. I know it doesn't sound like long, but almost three days with nothing more than an "ok" from her is very unusual. I love this girl with all my heart, but i'm worried she is just trying to forget about me before breaking up. If thats the case, i want to know so i can prepare myself for it.

 

Any advice or help will be greatly appreciated. As of now, i have resisted every urge to contact her again.

[that girl]

Your girlfriend has a point. Most people in long distance relationships make a committment to talk once a day. Obviously there will be times when that just can't happen, but saying it was in her mind was unfair.

 

That isn't saying you shouldn't have a life, but you need to make your girlfriend a priority.

 

She isn't talking to you because her feelings are hurt. You screwed up and the email a day later didn't fix things totally.

 

You can't protect yourself from the pain of a break-up at this point. Preparing yourself will only make it more likely.

 

Call her tomorrow. If it is possible, try and ask if you could meet in person.

 

I think this is something you guys can fix. If your schedules match up decently, maybe you should put aside some time every morning/afternoon to talk (making the evenings less of a big deal).

[wnec]

I understand that, i know shes upset. I don't want to drive her away any further. I know i screwed up. If i don't hear from her tomorrow you think a call would be ok? Like i said i don't want to drive her away more but i need to know where things stand.

[that girl]

After 3 days, I think you can call.

 

When someone is super pissed, the best thing you can do is give a heartfelt apology. Then give a possible solution (like talking earlier in the day). But don't keep trying to justify the behavior, it will just piss them off.