Hopeful30 Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 Its easy to avoid dating the wrong guys, but the guys I end up attracting are normal until 4 months or 5 months into the relationship!! That's when their psycho side (controlling and jealous among others) slowly comes out.... and by the time we hit the 6 or 7 month point I leave them in order to avoid insanity. How on EARTH am I to avoid these men when they hide this from me for quite some time? By the time I "discover" their crazy side i'm already attached!
Feelin Frisky Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 I don't know. Women keep psychoing me out about that time too.
MrNate Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 Its easy to avoid dating the wrong guys, but the guys I end up attracting are normal until 4 months or 5 months into the relationship!! That's when their psycho side (controlling and jealous among others) slowly comes out.... and by the time we hit the 6 or 7 month point I leave them in order to avoid insanity. How on EARTH am I to avoid these men when they hide this from me for quite some time? By the time I "discover" their crazy side i'm already attached! This is the answer. If they show it to you too soon, then you won't get attached, and of course they can't have that, because it'll ruin their goals. Solution? Gotta keep on keepin' on.
Author Hopeful30 Posted September 5, 2010 Author Posted September 5, 2010 Is it luck then? Is that what we all have to resort to now?
Feelin Frisky Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 Is it luck then? Is that what we all have to resort to now? Pretty much. Too bad it takes so long sometimes to see that one trait that makes ya say to yourself "..holy smokes, just who is this person?" after which a sobering clarity comes that they aren't "all that" or what you hoped or thought. Sometimes one realizes that he or she now has a problem on their hands to dispense with and that doesn't feel good at all if one is sensative and not a socio-path.
MrNate Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 Is it luck then? Is that what we all have to resort to now? Yep. Humans are simply too dynamic to assume anything. It's always better to be realistic instead of idealistic when dealing with the human race. 'Human' and 'definite' go together like 'meat' and 'veagan'. Very little to no correlation.
collegeguy_24 Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 I don't know. Women keep psychoing me out about that time too. Agreed, same thing happened to the women I meet, its irritating. I think I understand your pain Hopeful30 because its easy to get attached to someone and when you leave them or they leave you because of their insane tendencies it hurts quite a bit.
Green Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 I can usualy tell if some one is going to be psycho. If it keeps happening maybe you should let some one else pick your next bf as you don't seem capable.
Feelin Frisky Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 I can usualy tell if some one is going to be psycho. If it keeps happening maybe you should let some one else pick your next bf as you don't seem capable. I'm curious. What's your trick there Greenie old bean? I have found that some women (and I'm sure some men too but I wouldn't know as no homo) have personality complexes--and sometimes these complexes manifest as identity shifts. Sometimes all one can see in the early parts of a relationship is the one identity the other person consciously or subconsciously chooses to show. This can make the appearance of continuity. But their schism ultimately will reveal itself the closer one gets and longer one hangs with the afflicted person. Such degrees of "borderline personality disorder" make for an encompassing identity that is most problematic to be near. Often such people switch back and forth and one identity manifestation seems to either not know or deny what the other identity manifestation has said or done. Such an afflicted person often tends to blame anyone or everyone for all their problems and become ever more reinforced that there could be nothing wrong with him or her. This leaves the significant other who has a single consistent identity trying to apply logic to something which has no logic or at least nothing the significant other can do about it. If the SO is not learned that so-called "complexes" are real and tangibly toxic, the SO can find themselves an absolute emotional wreck perhaps second-guessing themselves and arguing incessantly to no avail. It is so that these personality schisms and identity shifts sometimes do not reveal themselves until after the SO has thrown him or her self into great emotional and physical investment. If you have a keen eye for discerning this beyond the seemingly benevolent and seductive appearances that afflicted often show early in a relationship, perhaps you should package and brand it as retard repellent. I'd definitely buy some. What's the secret formula proffesor von Greenmeister?
atlnay Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 Awww i like psycho dudes, they give me the lolz stories to tell my friends over lunch...lol..i tend to find the psycho ways on 1st date though, how are these dudes keeping it in for 6months? What's an example of the crazy you are getting?
AverageJoe Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 Happens to us men too. Went out on a date once (not sure how this came up) with this gal. She didnt believe in dinosaurs. Yeah, they never existed. Wtf? I guess I got lucky a little earlier that time than you did. Just keep at it, or make sure you are not the one driving them phsyco.
collegeguy_24 Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 I once dated a psycho goth chick who could have been bi-polar and also tried to sperm jack me when she fear me dumping her only to eventually cheat on me with a woman. Hows that for a psycho? Even my therapist is astounded as to why I attract psychos, its something he wants to explore to keep it from happening again.
Mme. Chaucer Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 Psycho people are more exciting than normies.
Sabali Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 (edited) Its easy to avoid dating the wrong guys, but the guys I end up attracting are normal until 4 months or 5 months into the relationship!! That's when their psycho side (controlling and jealous among others) slowly comes out.... and by the time we hit the 6 or 7 month point I leave them in order to avoid insanity. How on EARTH am I to avoid these men when they hide this from me for quite some time? By the time I "discover" their crazy side i'm already attached! That is why in every other post I bring up how important it is to take things slow. Crazy comes out! It can only hide for so long and if you just dive right into things crazy is just going to ambush you a couple of months or so down the line. How do you avoid this? Slow Motion... that's how. Don't try spending every second on the phone with the person, texting every minute (or at all for that matter) going on long trips with a person after only a few weeks of meeting them and spending so much time with them. So when crazy comes out, you are not too invested in the whole relationship. You just can't go wrong with slow mo. Consider yourself lucky if you even get me to "give it up" by the third date. Edited September 6, 2010 by Sabali
Green Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 I'm curious. What's your trick there Greenie old bean? I have found that some women (and I'm sure some men too but I wouldn't know as no homo) have personality complexes--and sometimes these complexes manifest as identity shifts. Sometimes all one can see in the early parts of a relationship is the one identity the other person consciously or subconsciously chooses to show. This can make the appearance of continuity. But their schism ultimately will reveal itself the closer one gets and longer one hangs with the afflicted person. Such degrees of "borderline personality disorder" make for an encompassing identity that is most problematic to be near. Often such people switch back and forth and one identity manifestation seems to either not know or deny what the other identity manifestation has said or done. Such an afflicted person often tends to blame anyone or everyone for all their problems and become ever more reinforced that there could be nothing wrong with him or her. This leaves the significant other who has a single consistent identity trying to apply logic to something which has no logic or at least nothing the significant other can do about it. If the SO is not learned that so-called "complexes" are real and tangibly toxic, the SO can find themselves an absolute emotional wreck perhaps second-guessing themselves and arguing incessantly to no avail. It is so that these personality schisms and identity shifts sometimes do not reveal themselves until after the SO has thrown him or her self into great emotional and physical investment. If you have a keen eye for discerning this beyond the seemingly benevolent and seductive appearances that afflicted often show early in a relationship, perhaps you should package and brand it as retard repellent. I'd definitely buy some. What's the secret formula proffesor von Greenmeister? Well first off I'm not a very trusting person. I'm a hope for the best plan for the worst type of guy. For instance as a policy I will be getting a paternity test when I have a kid even if its with my wife who I have no reason to believe is cheating. The thing is I've been through things far worse then any crazy woman so when one comes a long it just makes me laugh and I'll get her out of my life no trouble. For the record all women are some what crazy (less logical then men IMO) but some are a pleasure to be around. When they stop being a pleasure I won't hesitate to get rid of them.
Feelin Frisky Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 Well first off I'm not a very trusting person. I'm a hope for the best plan for the worst type of guy. For instance as a policy I will be getting a paternity test when I have a kid even if its with my wife who I have no reason to believe is cheating. The thing is I've been through things far worse then any crazy woman so when one comes a long it just makes me laugh and I'll get her out of my life no trouble. For the record all women are some what crazy (less logical then men IMO) but some are a pleasure to be around. When they stop being a pleasure I won't hesitate to get rid of them. ribbit......
Satisfaction Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 I am afraid it is mainly luck. That's what makes dating so hard. I think that psycho are attracted to girls/people who are sweet and understanding and don't spend alot of time questioning peoples motives and generally expect people are good and rational. Expecting people to be crazy and always being suspicious however is a good way to rapidly suck the enjoyment of life away. You just need to be cautious and try to get to know people so its less likely you fall for the wrong people.
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