PREGOnANGRY Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 Okay im soo angry right now.. My boyfriend and i have been together for almost 2 years, we moved in together a couple months ago and everything has been okay until we found out that we are having a baby.. Im almost 7 weeks pregnant and i work days and he works nights and its hard for us to find time to spend together but here recently every opportunity we have to spend together he is off with his friends and leaves me at the house alone! I guess i just dont understand why he is pushing me away??? Does anyone have an advise?
bobdole Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 advise? - adviCe You haven't give us much information to go on. From what you said I guess I would say he's scared about father hood, about the child taking so much of his time, now and for the next 18-22'ish years. I'd probably want to go out and have fun too - but I would include my significant other...
norajane Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 Maybe he wants to go out with his friends as much as possible before the baby comes and your lives change completely. He won't be able to take off like that when there's a baby at home. Or maybe he will? Is he happy about this baby? Have you had a discussion of what your expectations are from him these days while you are pregnant, and what kind of father he wants to be?
Philetus Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 Okay im soo angry right now.. My boyfriend and i have been together for almost 2 years, we moved in together a couple months ago and everything has been okay until we found out that we are having a baby.. Im almost 7 weeks pregnant and i work days and he works nights and its hard for us to find time to spend together but here recently every opportunity we have to spend together he is off with his friends and leaves me at the house alone! I guess i just dont understand why he is pushing me away??? Does anyone have an advise? You've GOT to sit down and talk to him. Find out how he feels about being a father, is he happy? Tell him how you're feeling about him spending time with friends, that you're feeling neglected. Tell him the pregnancy is VERY tough - and scary - for you, too. You need him more than ever. Tell him you WANT him to still go see his friends, and you'll do the same (and do it!). But, something wonderful is coming into your lives and you want to get ready for it together. If you can try to understand why he's doing this WITHOUT judgment you have a much better chance of solving your problems. If you start telling him what to do, he's gonna get defensive and you'll argue. Having a baby is a life changing event and many of us need our friends for a lot of reasons. There are things you can talk about with your friends you can't talk about with your girlfriend. So, don't assume he's doing this because he's shutting you out. If you think about this as a problem you have to solve together, rather than making accusations and issuing ultimatums, you have a much better chance of getting what you need. Good luck.
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