Author Will59 Posted September 4, 2010 Author Posted September 4, 2010 Well, you need to get over it. It's a very unattractive trait. I have a friend who had bone cancer at age 15 (probably caused by chemical exposure) resulting in an amputation of one of her legs. How do you think she liked trying to date and grow into an adult woman with that? She is one of the most talented, wonderful women I know and has a super hubby (and no, he is not an amputee fetishist). There are many, many people who have been dealt a harsh hand who handle it with grace. Be one. Even if it takes therapy. It is reminiscent of another guy who posts here; the way you completely discount every single example given by a not so tall guy about his dating successes or by girls or women who have had great experiences with a shorter guy. You are just determined to have your skewed perspective affirmed and you refuse to see that it won't be. And give up on the Prozac whine. The studies have not been conclusive. Even if they had, your certainty that you were destined to be tall is pure conjecture and fantasy. Bazillions of short guys, including bona fide "little people" have the same kind of musculature and facial hair that you say you have. Try visiting southern Italy or other Latin countries sometime. Or New York. I don't know. We were attracted to each other. Why have you conveniently "forgotten" that I am NOW with a guy who is between 5'8 - 9? And I LOVE him, and can't even keep my hands off of him, much to his dismay. By the way, he went to college on a baseball scholarship, and also played football (halfback) and was on the wrestling team. A very successful high school and college athlete. I know you are right. I have body dysmorphic a bit, but I am the shortest guy at my college... I feel like a whole different species of animal. Pretty much all guys are 5'10-6'2 that I see my age... and I feel like the only guys I connect with are 6'1+, and it's like wow I'm a f****ng runt because of a drug
WowReally Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 Just curious. Also, which one(s) were the most attractive? And how tall are you? I like a guy to be between 5'6-6' Im 5' tall I thought they were all attactive - i wouldnt have dated them otherwise:D
Feelin Frisky Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 How different would your life be if your growth was stunted really bad? How would you react? I'm curious.... how different would your self-identity be? Well, if your drawing a hard conclusion that Prozac stunted your growth you should consider that this may be a theory and not a fact. I have used Prozac since it hit the market and have never heard of it stunting growth. Of course I was already grown when I started. But I smoked cigarettes as a teen and that was said to stunt growth too. Maybe I'd be 6'4 instead of 6'2-1/2", maybe not. But it sure didn't make me a runt. Maybe you're just short and that's that. Whether it happened by artifice or genetics, it is an unshakable fact. Lots of men compensate for smaller stature with charisma if not cunning. But the fact that they're smaller in size is a prompting mechanism for them to develop other traits that give them social mobility. If they obsess about a perceived disadvantage then they impose smallness upon themselves. Blaming medication might be seizing on something that can't be changed and juggling it as an excuse not to soldier on with what you do have. Being tall is not always an advantage, BTW. As I child I received all manner of unfair blame and vicious physical punishment for merely appearing bigger and therefore older than I was. There came a point where I had to stop using my lousy childhood as an excuse not to grow in spirit and reflecting that new spirit in my personality. PS: Sorry if I missed the mention of Prozac in the OP, Mme. Chaucer. But I stand by "Prozac whine" as a caution. Perhaps the OPer is "Prozac whining" but that might be all in his head. The SSRI family of modern meds has not gotten the distinction from previous medications used for psycho-social issues that it truly deserves in the public consciousness and many many people still look at all psychiatric medication as a "feel good pill" or a "zombie-maker" when in fact these SRI's are usually transparent. The patient does not feel their presence. Unlike the older central nervous system blanket stimulators or depressants, the SSRI family does not seek to suppress symptoms by tampering with the central nervous system. They seek to attack chemical causes of circular feelings and emotional consternation with having feelings happen in great intensity prior to abilities to reason them into proportion. Anger, fear, frustration release adrenaline causing physical undesirables like blushing, flushing, rage, sometimes over-reaction by catatonia as an unconscious defense mechanism. One afflicted with chemical shortfalls can not out-think their feelings. The feelings precede interpretations and thus they are too huge a genie to put back in the bottle. People often self-medicate to feel good again. By allowing the person a new presence of mind where it is possible to defer feelings even for a small instant, SSRI medications give persons the key to leveling the playing field with other persons not so afflicted by their own neuro-transmitter system irregularities. Such medications become real life-savers and happiness enablers. They don't deliver happiness, they just make it more possible for the person to achieve happier psycho-social states.
Mme. Chaucer Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 PS: Sorry if I missed the mention of Prozac in the OP, Mme. Chaucer. But I stand by "Prozac whine" as a caution. Perhaps the OPer is "Prozac whining" but that might be all in his head. The SSRI family of modern meds has not gotten the distinction from previous medications used for psycho-social issues that it truly deserves in the public consciousness and many many people still look at all psychiatric medication as a "feel good pill" or a "zombie-maker" when in fact these SRI's are usually transparent. The patient does not feel their presence. I agree; bad choice of words on my part. What I meant was that he was whining ABOUT Prozac being fully responsible for his height. OP - Either you are not really 5'9" as you say you are, or you go to the tiniest college in the land. There is NO WAY that a 5'9" guy is the shortest fellow on any campus.
bac Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 (edited) Just curious. Also, which one(s) were the most attractive? And how tall are you? I am short, so, 50% of my guys were short. Some were very short, so, I could not wear any hills. It was the most terrible problem for me because I love shoes with hills. I have no idea about what their real height was because they do often add for online's profile a few inches. I guess the shortest guys were 5'4-5'5-5'6. But, guys who were 5'9 liked to complain about being short as well. The most attractive was the one who was 6 down low.(just kidding) Edited September 4, 2010 by bac
kalikula Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 I know you are right. I have body dysmorphic a bit, but I am the shortest guy at my college... I feel like a whole different species of animal. Pretty much all guys are 5'10-6'2 that I see my age... and I feel like the only guys I connect with are 6'1+, and it's like wow I'm a f****ng runt because of a drug Regardless of the reason you can't change how tall you are, so the only thing you CAN do is to get over it and stop obsessing about it so much. I agree theres no way that you're the shortest guy at your college unless youre not actually 5'9. As I said in my other post, my brother took growth hormone shots that made him essentially never have a growth spurt, and he ended up only being 5'4... What would you have done in that case, kill yourself? People can't even help their genes, so it's ridiculous of you to complain that it's not fair because of a drug but it's OK for all the other short guys because of their genes. Who cares? You can't control either of these factors. If I was a girl talking to you and I found out you were so obsessed with your height, that would be a huge turnoff. Girls like confident guys.
elaina Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 My exhusband is 5'9'', and I had absolutely no problem with his height at all. I am 5'4''. My exfiance is 5'11''. My exboyfriend is 5'11'. The man I am interested in is 6'2'' but I'm not interested in him because of his height. I love his heart. (though yes he is very hot and handsome, but he would be hot and handsome shorter too, I think)and I love how he likes me for who I am, and I hope (right now) that we get married someday! Height though is not the distinguishing factor for a relationship to work.
BlueRidgeMTs Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 I am 5'7". My last few exes over the years..one was 5'10, one was 5'9", and one was my height, 5'7". My current boyfriend is 5'6"..and if i had to pick, he is the most attractive of the 4. The shortest guy i have dated was about 5'5"...maybe even 5'4. If you ask me to be perfectly honest, I at least like the guy to be MY height.. I could care less if he is 6'2. I happen to think a 5'8 or 5'9 guy makes a perfect fit for a 5'7" woman like me. You fit into each others arms so nicely. BUT..I will..and have..dated shorter men.
kiss_andmakeup Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 Current serious BF: 5'10" Non-serious/Short term BF #2: 5'8" Non-serious/short term BF #1: 5'9" Serious BF #2: 6' Serious BF #1: 6'5" I'm 5'9". Honestly not sure which one would be most attractive, but I definitely have the best chemistry with my current bf.
NeoGen85 Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 I am your height standing at 5' 9" and have a girlfriend. In fact my girlfriend is taller then me! How I love those long legs.
Citizen Erased Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 I'm 5'1". My fiance is 5'8". My ex before him was about 6', the one before him about the same. I really wouldn't know, height just doesn't seem as important to guys here in OZ to be honest. To me everyone is just tall anyway.
mem11363 Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 Will, Are you in great shape. Do you have a nice V shaped physique? Are you maximizing what you DO HAVE? I know what you're saying, however it's not my god-given height I'm freaking out over, it's the fact that a prescription drug stunted my growth bad for 4 years of puberty. I completely missed out on the big growth spurt that every guy gets, because of a freaking chemical. And it feels AWFUL, especially since I'm really sporty and want to play a lot of sports. I'm not superficial, but I am typically attracted to very pretty girls. I'm not trying to sound like a jerk when I say that, it just is what it is. And these pretty girls always want the dominant male of the group, which is typically the tallest guy, and at 5'9" I am basically the complete opposite. I can't help who I'm attracted to, but these girls know good genes and so it's like killing my chances of reproducing at this height I feel. Just curious, why have all your relationships been with 6'0+ guys would you say? Because they are the only relationship-suitable guys or because you just liked their personality?
witabix Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 Will59 what is going on? Is this some sort of attempt to reintroduce Apartheight?
Stung Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 Just curious. Also, which one(s) were the most attractive? And how tall are you? Yikes, this again? Alright, I'll bite: I'm six feet tall. The past several men I dated/had relationships with, if I recall correctly, in reverse chronological order-- 6'1.5" (my wonderful husband ) 6'3" (a good guy, brilliant scientist, we're still friendly) 5'10" (good guy,talented artist, we're still friendly) 5'9" (i loved him and he broke my heart) 5'8" (turned out to be cheating on his wife ) 5'10" (i loved him and he broke my heart) 6'3" (male model who was terrible in bed) 6'4" (was a fun fling but a personality mismatch) 5'8" (this relationship was a sucking whirlpool of disaster but he was a very pretty man) 5'9" (very sweet guy, only one I still occasionally wonder 'whatever happened to...') They were all attractive in different ways that were a combination of their looks and their intelligence and charisma. Intelligence and charisma are HOT and up anybody's attractiveness in spades. I've dated more guys than listed here and some of them were short and some of them were tall but it's been a long time and it's not like I cared enough about everybody's measurements to commit them to long-term memory.
lilbunny Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 Will59 what is going on? Is this some sort of attempt to reintroduce Apartheight? :laugh: lmao Will I am deeply concerned about the relentless height posts in any and every thread. I would say it is bordering on being a troll, but you will only ask me how tall they are.
witabix Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 :laugh: lmao Will I am deeply concerned about the relentless height posts in any and every thread. I would say it is bordering on being a troll, but you will only ask me how tall they are. How tall is the average troll? The one in Lord of the Rings must have been twelve feet high! But they range in height from 2' 6" to over 20' 1 5/8". So the little ones must have short desks to put their computers on, and the big ones just lean in the window. Or have big troll-ies to push them around on. Just change the measurements to centimetres, then no one will have any idea how tall you are. Will, you really have to let go of this fixation on height. It is not good for you.
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