spookie Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 (edited) I don't want to be alone. It isn't that I'm afraid of it. I took two years off to be single, and it worked out spectacularly for me. I learned so much about myself, how to take care of myself (having moved to a big city all alone), how to be a better person, a good friend. I got my s!ht together... and now Im ready to settle down. However... my life lacks the infrastructure necessary to meet new people. My primary group of friends consists, in Shadow's words, of "corporate jocks", whose primary hobby is binge drinking. Don't get be wrong, I like these people, but I have felt estranged lately. I don't like drinking as much as I used to anymore, and beyond that, I don't feel like we have much in common. In addition to dating, I'd like to make some new friends, but it seems like this is just as hard, if one's looking for quality. My hobbies are working out, working, finance, reading, and occasionally writing. All of these are lonely activities. I don't have much free time, and I don't know how to go about meeting new (hopefully cooler) people without networking further with my existing group of friends, which would require throwing myself into the party scene again, which I just have zero desire to do at this point. In terms of what I am looking for, "connection" is jey, both with lovers, and friends. I would like to meet people that are easy to talk to, who enjoy opening up and getting to know the other person on a deeper level beyond banter and small-talk. I had friendships like this in high school and to a lesser degree, college, but never since then. Thoughts? I just don't want to end up late thirties, "successful", and single. I see so many examples this in my life, and while I know most of these people are happy, it's not what I want, even though it seems to be the natural course my life is taking. Edited September 4, 2010 by spookie
Green Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 Looks like I'm just in time for the pitty party. You know what to do, stop being scared. Be yourself and live life to the fullest in the here and NOW. Arn't there clubs for people who like being creative and writing? If you search your mind you already know the solutions to your problems so stop feeling sorry for yourself.
Ruby Slippers Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 My hobbies are working out, working, finance, reading, and occasionally writing. All of these are lonely activities. Writing class, art class, reading group/book club, workout groups/sports leagues, coffee shops with your notebook.
threebyfate Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 As usual, you've got me scratching my head again. This is all about shifting perception spook. You're still the same person you were before this previous month. To the best of your knowledge, you're still in some form of a relationship with this guy (who you know I don't think much of) and you're still friends with this group of coworkers. These are all facts that I'm aware of, unless you've broken up with the loser. So...now that we've ascertained you're still the same person, why are you so down on yourself?
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