Swimie Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 I feel bad and judgmental.. But I don't think I could trust them. Ever! Jeeze. I had a few good guy pals that were. They'd tell me all their stories.. I just always have to hear about a guy's past when deciding if I'm interested... If I catch hear of him doing anything "NSA" I'd immediately lose interest. But there one this one guy pal of mine. I think I woulda went for him. But at the same time, it is/was probably better left alone. I just don't think I could ...get over it? Is my judgment off? I could be ruling out perfectly good dates? I'm not sure how normal or popular my view on this is. Or if any of those guys ever really "change"?
Rorschach Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 As a guy this doesn't really apply to me, but even from a non-dating perspective I don't like the player mentality, it's using people for your own personal benefit. I see these people as leeches, just as bad as people who steal. They just steal emotions/bodies as opposed to money. There are some women who don't mind getting picked up like that, but I can't believe that every person these 'players' ever used like that walked away with a smile. And if even one got hurt by these guys I think that's unacceptable.
FitChick Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 When you are younger, you can play around and get it out of your system. That's how you learn about yourself and the opposite sex. Then when you mature, you will recognize who is worth more than just a one night stand. Even Warren Beatty, the biggest player of them all, eventually got married!
EthanH Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 I don't think it matters. In many ways, if someone has experience before, and has done the whole 'no strings' thing, it makes them more likely to know what they want when they are older. I don't think 'ex players'/'players' are any less positive choices to date than 'non-players'... I know it sounds cliched, but everyone is different... If you are looking for something serious, surely you would rather date an ex player who knows what he wants than someone who hasn't really dated much apart from long term things and is a bit clueless about what they want?
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