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Told you or you somehow found out that they werent physically attracted to you at first but grew to like you becasue of your charm and personality?

 

 

I just thought of this because of the threads about finding people attractive you at first didnt

 

Call me shallow but if i was in a relationship id want my girlfriend to think i was at least somewhat cute..

 

If i found out she didnt think i was that good looking even if she said i was the best person shed ever met id be a little hurt

 

Maybe its wrong but its how id react and sometihng i fear as a guy who doesnt have much self confidence in his looks

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Yea, a little...I would hope that from the beginning, she'd want to rip off my clothes as much as I wanted to rip off hers... :rolleyes:

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First, I would think he must've been kidding-because the scenario is not just not possible, then I would throw a fit and break up with him-after all I was only with him because I lost a bet!:mad:

 

Seriously, I would be offended and will probably break up with him. I am not the girl that you settle with because you didn't get the girl you really wanted!:mad:

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Told you or you somehow found out that they werent physically attracted to you at first but grew to like you because of your charm and personality?

 

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Call me shallow but if i was in a relationship id want my girlfriend to think i was at least somewhat cute..

 

If i found out she didnt think i was that good looking even if she said i was the best person shed ever met id be a little hurt

 

Physically attracted to you, or find you attractive? There's a crucial distinction there. He absolutely MUST find me attractive on a base level from the get go. Whether he feels physically attracted TO me is a different story.

 

I've definitely been in a place where, while I found them attractive, wasn't attracted to them at first... but as I got to know them became almost rabidly attracted to them. So, I can definitely relate to the feeling.

 

But if he didn't find me attractive at all in the beginning? That I couldn't handle at all, no matter how awesome he thought I was.

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Of course i wouldnt like it who doesnt want to feel desired?

 

Unforutnately if you arent even a semi attractive dude thats yor fate though youre gonna have to live with the fact that the person your with loves your personality and maybe tolerates you physically at most

 

Though water seeks its own level so youll proably do the same for your partner as most mediocre looking couples do thats the ugly truth

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Of course i wouldnt like it who doesnt want to feel desired?

 

Unforutnately if you arent even a semi attractive dude thats yor fate though youre gonna have to live with the fact that the person your with loves your personality and maybe tolerates you physically at most

 

Though water seeks its own level so youll proably do the same for your partner as most mediocre looking couples do thats the ugly truth

 

Oh believe me i realize with what i look like if i ever do ge a women whos actually attracted to me its not gonna be somebody i find amazingly hot and want to rip off their clothes.. its gonna be somebody i hopefully can somewhat tolerate phsically as well..

 

Im not one fo these houlier then thou ugly people who say looks dont matter to me when people are as shallow as their options..

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Well--offended? Not exactly. But yes, I would be a little hurt, and I would probably start to feel a little insecure. I'd probably have to think about the potential ramifications of it for a while.

 

 

ETA: Agreed with Stargazer though that there is a difference between finding someone attractive and being attracted. I, too, would be philosophical about a SO finding me attractive but only becoming attracted to me later--a SO not thinking I'm objectively attractive at all would be much harder, sadder.

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