jean-luc sisko Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 this is not a hypothetical scenario, but I don't want others to know, so the context has been changed slightly since I've used pseudonyms. Y works in the Buying department of a company, and has been so since April 2009. Y, over the past month or so, has developed an attraction to X, who is about 27 and works in the Finance Dept. Y and X have lunch sometimes, but Y cannot stop thinking about X, and has a huge crush on her. Is Y in love? It seems odd since Y does not know much about X, apart from obviously her name and where she lives. Is it just an empty infatuation, or could Y build on his attraction to X?
Knittress Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 Does it really matter what label a bunch of strangers slap on the situation? Will the semantics really help you figure out how you feel about the situation? Just go with it...
Author jean-luc sisko Posted September 2, 2010 Author Posted September 2, 2010 Well, what should Y do? Do his feelings even make sense?
MissMayhem Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 Well, first of all, Y doesn't know X well enough yet to be in love with her. I think the only love that is instantaneous is the love a parent can feel for a newborn child. I don't believe in love at first sight. I do believe in lust at first sight, crushes and infatuations that can hurt and wound. But REAL love has to be nurtured and grown. AND it requires effort from both Y and X in order to make it REAL. Does X reciprocate this attraction in any other way except going to lunch? Any phone calls, texts, etc.? Pursuing love is always worth it and only Y can decide if he wants to build on what he feels. Y will NEVER know unless he tries and takes the next step forward. Lunch can lead to dinner, dinner to wonderful nights spent together and then maybe a lifetime....... I say go for it.
Author jean-luc sisko Posted September 2, 2010 Author Posted September 2, 2010 the infatuation is on Y's part mainly. But Y can't stop thinking about her, so Y is key to pursue.
bac Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 this is not a hypothetical scenario, but I don't want others to know, so the context has been changed slightly since I've used pseudonyms. Y works in the Buying department of a company, and has been so since April 2009. Y, over the past month or so, has developed an attraction to X, who is about 27 and works in the Finance Dept. Y and X have lunch sometimes, but Y cannot stop thinking about X, and has a huge crush on her. Is Y in love? It seems odd since Y does not know much about X, apart from obviously her name and where she lives. Is it just an empty infatuation, or could Y build on his attraction to X? It is not weird feelings, it is normal sexual attraction. You should be attracted to females, you should take initiative to get what you want (sex).
CLC2008 Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 this is not a hypothetical scenario, but I don't want others to know, so the context has been changed slightly since I've used pseudonyms. Y works in the Buying department of a company, and has been so since April 2009. Y, over the past month or so, has developed an attraction to X, who is about 27 and works in the Finance Dept. Y and X have lunch sometimes, but Y cannot stop thinking about X, and has a huge crush on her. Is Y in love? It seems odd since Y does not know much about X, apart from obviously her name and where she lives. Is it just an empty infatuation, or could Y build on his attraction to X? I think only "Y" knows for sure, but, I think it's merely a crush at this point. It's not to say that it can't turn into love, but it def has to be mutual.
Author jean-luc sisko Posted September 2, 2010 Author Posted September 2, 2010 I think only "Y" knows for sure, but, I think it's merely a crush at this point. It's not to say that it can't turn into love, but it def has to be mutual. What is the difference between love and a crush?
K'aycie Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 What is the difference between love and a crush? Love is permanent, a crush is temporary. It involves committment, it is generally a calmer, more mature feeling versus a crush.
Author jean-luc sisko Posted September 2, 2010 Author Posted September 2, 2010 Love is permanent' date=' a crush is temporary. It involves committment, it is generally a calmer, more mature feeling versus a crush.[/quote'] I can see how that makes sense. For what it's worth, I had lunch with her again today, but she was with her co-worker from her department so didn't get much time with her one on one. I admit as this stage it's just infatuation, but I can't help it really. She's just so cute and pretty but I get time to talk to her alone.
meerkat stew Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 Need algebra refresh. OP, sounds like an SAT word problem.
InceptorsRule Posted September 3, 2010 Posted September 3, 2010 I can see how that makes sense. For what it's worth, I had lunch with her again today, but she was with her co-worker from her department so didn't get much time with her one on one. I admit as this stage it's just infatuation, but I can't help it really. She's just so cute and pretty but I get time to talk to her alone. Let me take a wild stab at this: Next time you see this girl, smile, wink at her, say "Hey cutie," and then ask her if she wants to go out for a drink after work. Her reaction to the above should tell you all you need to know.
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