Cyndrin Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 Ok so here's my story...Kinda a long story sorry. I met this girl about 3 months ago at work. We decided to hang out one night and ended up hooking up which lead to us almost having sex but it didn't work out so well in my two seater 350z...you have no idea how much I regret bringing that car that night lol. She had and still has a boyfriend of 3 years when this happened. After that we started hanging out more and more often but never again have we hooked up since that night, and I've tried plenty of times. We've been getting really close lately but i think it's more of a friendship which I'm not really looking for right now with her. Just yesterday we were sitting outside the mall for two hours and she told me things she said she never even told her boyfriend. That made me think even more this girl just wants me as a friend and nothing more. Why would she tell me things about her life that she hasn't even told her boyfriend of 3 years? I know if this girl didn't have a boyfriend I definitely would be in the friend zone right now but am I wrong to cling onto the hope that she might break up with her boyfriend soon and she likes having me around for that reason? I'm basically the complete opposite of her boyfriend, he has no job, no car and doesn't goto school and he's a complete dick to her The thing with her boyfriend is they are constantly fighting and don't talk for days at a time but she always goes back to him. She complains to me about everything he does and I basically tell her that he's never gonna change and I don't want to deal with her boyfriend problems for her..I don't want to be her emotional tampon. I try not to flirt with her that much anymore because I know she has a boyfriend and she deffinitely knows I still like her. Do you think I'm stuck in the friendzone? Should lay low for a while and just make my move when and if she ever breaks up with her boyfriend? Or should I still hang out with her a lot like I have been lately? Thanks.
Rorschach Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 you should move on to new women, it sounds like she friendzoned you, and even if she hasn't if she was willing to cheat on her boyfriend with you what makes you think she wouldn't just cheat on you if the time came? You could go no contact and talk to her again when/if she breaks up but why go through all that emotional trouble? Just forget it.
Fire Salamander Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 I didn't even bother to read the post. If you have to ask then yes you are. These things are black and white. Either you're her boyfriend doing boyfriend things or you're not getting any.
Author Cyndrin Posted September 1, 2010 Author Posted September 1, 2010 you should move on to new women, it sounds like she friendzoned you, and even if she hasn't if she was willing to cheat on her boyfriend with you what makes you think she wouldn't just cheat on you if the time came? You could go no contact and talk to her again when/if she breaks up but why go through all that emotional trouble? Just forget it. I wish I could just forget about her but I actually really like the girl and see her everyday at work so it's not too easy.
Rorschach Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 I wish I could just forget about her but I actually really like the girl and see her everyday at work so it's not too easy. not always easy to make the right decision I know but chasing taken women never ends well.
Author Cyndrin Posted September 1, 2010 Author Posted September 1, 2010 not always easy to make the right decision I know but chasing taken women never ends well. Yeah ur right, that's the reason I haven't really been flirting with her. She's the one that calls me all the time to do something though, I never call her first. I guess I'll just let time run it's course and see what happens
Yamaha Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 Why should she drop the boyfriend? she has you. He might be a dick to her but he provides her with something you don't, sex. She has him for sex and you to hang out with and tell her problems. If your not happy with the situation and want her as a gf then you need to tell her either she drops the bf and dates you or you go find another gf.
Author Cyndrin Posted September 1, 2010 Author Posted September 1, 2010 (edited) Why should she drop the boyfriend? she has you. He might be a dick to her but he provides her with something you don't, sex. She has him for sex and you to hang out with and tell her problems. If your not happy with the situation and want her as a gf then you need to tell her either she drops the bf and dates you or you go find another gf. That makes sense, id probably loose her as a even friend if she says no but it's gotten to the point where I don't want just a friend. I should just tell her to call me when she breaks up with her BF lol. If not I'll deffinitly make myself a lot less available to her..lately I've been there whenever she needs something or just wants to hang out. Edited September 2, 2010 by Cyndrin
alphamale Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 We decided to hang out one night and ended up hooking up which lead to us almost having sex but it didn't work out so well in my two seater 350z... you should have brought the Bentley Just yesterday we were sitting outside the mall for two hours and she told me things she said she never even told her boyfriend. you're friendzoned
Author Cyndrin Posted September 2, 2010 Author Posted September 2, 2010 (edited) you're friendzoned haha yeah after she said "I never even told my boyfriend this" the first thing I thought of was "great, this girl wouldn't have told me something she hasn't told her bf of 3 years if she wanted a relationship.." Part of me still wants to believe that I have a chance once she breaks up with her BF but I dunno. She has a ton of hot friends maybe ill use it as a opportunity Edited September 2, 2010 by Cyndrin
alphamale Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 She has a ton of hot friends maybe ill use it as a opportunity indeed, and the 350Z won't hurt
Author Cyndrin Posted September 2, 2010 Author Posted September 2, 2010 (edited) Now she wants to go with me to a club tomorrow night...gonna give her the sense I'm too busy to do much with her the next few days / weeks maybe it will change something. Wishful thinking? Edited September 2, 2010 by Cyndrin
Cracker Jack Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 ^You can make yourself unavailable--but hoping for more to come out of it is simply a waste of time at this point.
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