superunknown1 Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 In the library at my university, i met a girl straight from China. She has been in the USA for about 1 month so far. We talked for about a good 2 hours and seemed to get along fine. Her English is not perfect, but when i complimented on her English telling her i thought it was good, she smiled and blushed. She seemed very responsive and open to conversation, seeing how we I began talking to her while she was studying. She was very responsive It is only the first week of school, and she has not yet adapted to the US culture. She even admitted that she really doesnt know anyone at the university. before i left i got her number and said that we should meet up again, and she responded warmly to the idea. i'd like to think i have an advantage thus far seeing how she doesnt really know anyone else at the school. i know that's always subject to change, but my university is weird and fairly difficult to meet people. also i'm white and i've always heard that asian women love white men, i'm not going to rely on this stereotype haha. i don't want to screw this up. i believe if i play my cards correctly, it can pay off. does anyone have any advice or tips for me? i dont know how dating works in China or what she's used to, so i need to be careful. has anyone been in a similar situation? help would be appreciated! thanks!
zxvf Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 Knowing a bit about her culture and learning a bit of Chinese might work to your advantage. Seeing that she just came here, I wouldn't rush it, (even if she says yes, you guys probably won't be hitting the bedrooms for a while.) Also, you might have to face the fact that you might need her parent's approval. Personally I would wait until she gets a bit used to the culture before making a move, but at the same time, keep her close.
Ellezz Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 I'm Chinese and dating an American boy myself so i guess my situation is pretty similar. Sound like things are going pretty well for you. You might not want to move too fast so that you don't scare her off. Take little steps, once at a time. glad to help if you have further questions:)
yah Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 (edited) I'm Chinese but I was born in the US so this is prob way different than her. When I moved from a large city (lots of Chinese people) to a small town I knew no one and the lack of diversity was scary. I was desperate for friends, familiar foods and just people to practice my Cantonese with. So as for tips, maybe you can show her around town and introduce her to places and foods she would be somewhat familiar with. Maybe take an interest in her culture and learn how to say a pick-up line in her language. Maybe offer to help her with English and she teach you a bit of Chinese in return. TBH, I feel a lot of Chinese people see Westerners as "outsiders" so you may have to go the extra mile to earn a certain level of trust. Hmm... What else? Lots of friendly eye contact and attention. Ditto the advice on taking it slow. We are slow people... Find out about her family, they probably play a huge role in her life and the decisions she makes. Edited to add that, it is very offensive to us when someone mistakes what is "chinese" and what's not so do your homework! For ex, don't bring her to a viet restaurant and say "here's a good chinese restaurant." Same with chinese take-out (americanized) vs authentic chinese. lol Edited September 1, 2010 by yah
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