joel Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 ey i met a few girls randomly on the street , malls. and i got her number and we go for coffee. second date we might wathc movie and i would sometimes try to hold her hand and she would brush it away or try to hold her by her waist and she would brush it off. so im guessing why did she even accept going out with me in the first place i had another one who would let me hold her hand but at the end of the second date i tried to go for a kiss and she just reject it and moved away after 4 attempts. why did she even bother going out with me after how many dates can you hold her hand and get a kiss. these 2 girls are japanese overseas esl students
cottoncandy1 Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 This is what girls are attracted to - ONE WORD: CONFIDENCE If you act confident, you got them coming after YOU. Try it. Don't keep going after them, trying to hold their hand, kissing them. It appears desperate perhaps. You mentioned they were from Japan, perhaps their culture is different from ours and they aren't used to guys being so forthcoming. Act like you have confidence, hold your head up high. Speak with a smile and don't go for any kiss or hand holding. You have to get their cues first. Believe me, they'll give you cues.
DazednConfused Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 Cotton has it totally right... be the man. Short firm touches on the back of her hand in conversation... not holding. Good trick for confidence is to pretend (only in your mind... don't claim it out loud, lol) everywhere you go that you actually own the place... movie theatre, bowling alley, whatever... you'll unconciously square up your shoulders, firm your walk, and raise your head. First touches should inspire confidence... firm (never rough) hand to the small of her back guiding her to her seat in a restaurant or theatre. Use same move to pull her in a little closer moving thru a crowded or tight section... touch her shoulder to get her attention if she's beside you. Slow down when you speak with her... never interrupt or speak over her, share your experience on related subjects when she is finished and let it flow. Just my .02 -Dazed
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