headfirst Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 For example this week my bf came over sunday evening and we stayed together until Wed morning and I'll probably see him again on sunday. Is this a healthy schedule? We've been together for 7 months. I mean I would love to see him everyday, but I guess he needs his space and stuff. But what about couples who live together..they never really get space from each other? What are you opinions on keeping a relationship fresh and successful in terms of contact?
V4Vanna Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 Headfirst. This is fine - if you're ok with it. Everyone's 'schedule' with their SO is different and it REALLY does depend on the couple, their schedules, commitments, etc. Your boyfriend may require some space and independence which is normal in a relationship - smothering and being attached at the hip, not so much. Now I'm not saying you are - but I'm saying that on the times you two are not together plan time with your friends, join a class, spend time doing a hobby. Although you're in a relationship you need to have 'alone time' away from each other so the relationship doesn't become common, normal, or boring. Also - why is it always Wed-Sun? Why aren't you getting together the other days? Is there a good reason for this? If not - I suggest changing your schedule up -cause sometimes having a schedule like that can become too normal/boring in and of itself. Either way enjoy your time together AND your time apart - they are both equally important, even as you said, when you're living together. Only then it's called 'girls night' or 'guys night.'
reservoirdog1 Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 To each their own. "Healthy" is meaningless -- it depends on whether or not it works for you. What you're describing sounds good, but that's just my opinion. The fact that he has his own space and time to himself (and that you do to) is a good thing. Yes, that will change if the two of you eventually live together, but you've only been dating for seven months. If living together is in the cards, just let it happen and don't force it. My GF and I have been dating for about 2.5 months. We're both single parents; she has her kids during the week and is free most weekends. Which means we usually go 5-6 days without seeing each other every week, unless we meet for lunch during the week. And when we do see each other, it's great. It can be hard going almost a week without seeing each other, and it would be nice to see her more during the week... but during the week we talk on the phone, send dirty emails, etc. Builds the anticipation, and keeps things fresh and fun. Plus I get my own time without pressure, which I've really come to value.
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