nat_nat Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 I basically just don't flirt at all, haven't got a clue how to! (Not obvious moves anyway lol!) Just wondering what kind of things you men notice and what kind of things you like? Also, what subtle flirting can I do in the office, but something that will get the guy I like to notice me more / realise that I like him?
Art_Critic Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 Putting a note in his desk drawer didn't work ? Man.. at this point flirting isn't going to work for you.. You are going to have to have a conversation with him and either ask him out on a date or tell him you are interested in him. Sometimes guys don't get the subtle flirting and it sounds like he might be one of those guys.. Are you sure he is available ? and do you think he likes you ?
Author nat_nat Posted September 1, 2010 Author Posted September 1, 2010 Putting a note in his desk drawer didn't work ? Man.. at this point flirting isn't going to work for you.. You are going to have to have a conversation with him and either ask him out on a date or tell him you are interested in him. Sometimes guys don't get the subtle flirting and it sounds like he might be one of those guys.. Are you sure he is available ? and do you think he likes you ? Hehe, no the note did not work! I didn't expect anything to come from that though, I didn't add my name and he would have had to do quite a lot of guesswork! We do talk regularly, and we all sit together for lunch but I don't ever really get a chance to be alone with him. He's definitely single (heard him mention it recently), and as for him liking me? Well all I can say is that for the first few months of working together I really thought he hated me, he would avoid me if he could, we never spoke, and he never even used to look at me. I found this difficult because he was the complete oppposite with everyone else!! But could that be because he liked me??! Is there a fine line between love/hate?! But we're much friendlier towards each other now, still a bit awkward I think though...
Cee Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 Girl point of view here. I'd tread lightly at this point after leaving the note. He knows it's you (or at least has it boiled down to 2-3 prospects). Often people notice flirting but choose to ignore it because they aren't interested. Or available. But if you want to pursue flirting, I'd wait until there's a social opportunity outside the office. That's how I did it with my office crush. It didn't end well though. And then I had to endure months of pain in the office before he left for another job.
Author nat_nat Posted September 1, 2010 Author Posted September 1, 2010 Girl point of view here. I'd tread lightly at this point after leaving the note. He knows it's you (or at least has it boiled down to 2-3 prospects). Often people notice flirting but choose to ignore it because they aren't interested. Or available. But if you want to pursue flirting, I'd wait until there's a social opportunity outside the office. That's how I did it with my office crush. It didn't end well though. And then I had to endure months of pain in the office before he left for another job. Can I ask what happened with yours? Did you just outright tell him? I don't think I'd ever pluck up the courage to do that anyway, I'd rather he just guessed for now!
lumenk85 Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 I basically just don't flirt at all, haven't got a clue how to! (Not obvious moves anyway lol!) Just wondering what kind of things you men notice and what kind of things you like? Also, what subtle flirting can I do in the office, but something that will get the guy I like to notice me more / realise that I like him? Go for a double date perhaps?
Philetus Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 A couple of general flirting tips... When talking to him make eye contact and SMILE. Stand with your body facing his. Occasionally, to emphasize a point, reach out and lightly touch his arm or hand - just once or twice and don't let your hand linger. Even the motion of reaching out is a strong flirty message. Look for him to reciprocate. If he doesn't pick up on that, he is either dense or not into you. If you don't have conversations with him, when you walk by him make eye contact and smile.
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