imstuckinatree3 Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 so i started trying this one online dating site and have started talking to this one girl. i was the first to message her and we have messages back and forth several times a day for about 2 weeks now. seeing as i have never dont this online thing, im not sure how to progress things. do i ask for a number and suggest a meeting? or something else? just looking for some input from those of you that have tried dating sites
bobdole Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 2 weeks is a bit to long in most cases. I'm generally arranging a date by 3rd or 4th round of mail. I've honestly haven't had to speak to many people on the phone. Just my own experience for the past month and a half or so since I started. Met about 7 people so far.
alexlakeman Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 I did it like that before...but this year I cut to the chase quickly... after 2-3 back and forth emails.. I tell her "How about if we put a voice to the face"... ask her for her #, and jot mines down and tell her "here's my # so when I call you you know who it is".... It's worked for me... if after 2-3 emails back and forth she's not giving you the #, move on... PERSONALLY, I do NOT want an email relationship, lol...
curlygirl40 Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 I have limited experience here (only been online dating for a couple of months, been on 2 dates) but I thought I would chime in. like the other poster said, 2 weeks is a long time to be chatting (e-mailing) without getting together, I think. Maybe she's waiting on you to make the first move also. I know a lot of people don't bother going to a phone call, they go right from e-mail to meeting, or e-mail then texting then meeting. I'm starting to think the phone call or two is crucial. I think there's so much you can tell about someone's personality that way. It definitely would have saved me the time of the first date that's for sure if I had talked to him first. The reason why I (and the other poster) think 2 weeks of e-mailing is too much is because a face to face meeting is really the only way you'll tell if you 'connect' with her. I have connected with guys via e-mail and text, then we meet and there's no real connection in person. Then (to me!) after that it feels a little strange to go from 'talking' to this person every day to nothing, which is probably what it will become if you don't dig each other. I made this amateurish move my very first experience. We texted like school girls and really got along very well, texted all day long for a week before we met (lots of flirting too, ug!! Did I learn that lesson hard). Then we met and didn't connect in person at all. So anyway, that's the long way to tell you to get a move on and ask the girl out! I recommend a phone conversation first, but it might be hard because she may not feel comfortable with giving you her number. Good luck! But meet her soon!
Author imstuckinatree3 Posted September 1, 2010 Author Posted September 1, 2010 i appreciate the help....like i said, just looking for some input......im kind of in uncharted waters...haha
meerkat stew Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 Try to meet within 2 weeks of her first response, take things off the dating site as fast as possible. I put in my profile that I prefer to meet sooner rather than later.
Fridaylove Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 Are you still chatting to her through the dating site? I think the next step should be asking for her email or AIM/MSN?
Author imstuckinatree3 Posted September 5, 2010 Author Posted September 5, 2010 thanks for the help guys.....i got her number, called her, and the next day ended up setting up a date for tonight
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