zxvf Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Greetings all! (Sorry, it seems that skipping those sex ed classes back in school to prepare for math contests aren't too wise now :/) I was wondering if you guys should shared a few opinions on the following matters: Is it a deal breaker if your gf refuses to swallow? or consider possibility that they might change their idea? Also threatened you that she will hate you if you "make/force" her. How would you guys feel if your gf has had 2 **** buddies, 3 boy friend, and someone whom she would call if she wants to be satisfied orally. Anal sex without protection, yay or nay?. And the best protection there could possibly be? Currently she is on the pill and while we both agreed that condom-less sex is better. Also we both agreed on the same course of action, in case if she got pregnant, (neither of us is religious, and pro choice. You can deduce where that leads to.) Also is it over reacting if you asked your gf to delete pictures of their ex and other partners from their social network websites and computers? and as well as not fooling around with guys that are gay? (Despite how okay people are with it) Would you guys feel "second rate" (even tho she tells you that she only ever loved you) if your gf refused to experience/do things with you that she have done with her past partners? Is it okay to ask for more than what she gives? ie) not just run on the mill vanilla sex, if so, to what extend? Cheeros!
Hannah86 Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 Honestly, this sounds like you should go by your standards and what you want. One thing I will say is: You sound like you are upset that she has been with other men, but you want her to be more adventurous with you. If you don't find the hilarity in this, too bad. It was a great laugh for me.
Author zxvf Posted September 1, 2010 Author Posted September 1, 2010 Honestly, this sounds like you should go by your standards and what you want. One thing I will say is: You sound like you are upset that she has been with other men, but you want her to be more adventurous with you. If you don't find the hilarity in this, too bad. It was a great laugh for me. Well... it would be nice if she could treat me like all her other bf. The normal "wam bam, k done, time for tv" sex is really well... not that great.
Stung Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 I'm not sure what you mean by 'fooling around' with gay guys, but if you mean she's making out with guys and saying it's okay because they prefer other men, that's pretty weird and if you guys are supposed to be monogamous, obviously not okay. Personally I think it's easier/better/more accepting to swallow and I can understand why a guy might feel bad if a girl won't, but she's still within her rights to not do it and no, you can't force her if she doesn't want to. If you two are both totally monogamous and have been STD tested and are having vaginal sex without condoms, I see no reason you'd have to wear condoms for anal. But if she's fooling around with 'gay' guys currently I'm not sure you're exactly monogamous...? I'd probably stick with the condoms for now. Also FYI if one of you does have an STD anal sex is a really, really easy way to transmit them as the tissues are thinner there and more easily torn. Always use a lot of lube, in any case. If she did something sexual with a past boyfriend and decided she didn't like it or felt bad about doing it, she doesn't have to do it with you and that doesn't make you second best, it just means she didn't enjoy it and doesn't want to do it again. It gives you the chance to be the better guy, by not being insensitive or pressuring. Her past is her past, unless you want to obsess over meaningless things and threaten the security of your current relationship, just leave it alone. Some day you will have another girlfriend, and this girlfriend will be YOUR sexual baggage which that future girlfriend will have to deal with and not obsess over. Such is the circle of life. The social networking stuff is one of those things that needs to be worked out by each individual couple, I think. I wouldn't delete all the pics of my exes out of my hard drives or rip them out of my photo albums, as long as they were normal pics and not pornographic and as long as they were't displayed out in public, because that's part of my history and a record of the live I have lived. I would never demand that my partner delete or throw away things of that nature, either, although I would ask that they be put away and not left out.
meerkat stew Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 If you are saying that she has some FB she will call while in an exclusive relationship, that of course won't fly, the rest of what you post is negotiable between the two and determined by their feelings alone. Personally, their is no sexual activity other than intercourse itself that I couldn't do without in a relationship.
Author zxvf Posted September 1, 2010 Author Posted September 1, 2010 Thanks for the replies guys! I'm not sure what you mean by 'fooling around' with gay guys, but if you mean she's making out with guys and saying it's okay because they prefer other men, that's pretty weird and if you guys are supposed to be monogamous, obviously not okay. I'm not too sure what the full extend was, but from what I gather it was full clothes on contact. But what I'm trying to ask her is to not do that while we are together. I really don't think this is too much to give up. Personally I would never touch (or to be touched by) a lesbian girl in any sexual manner, with clothes on or off. Unless of course I was single. If she did something sexual with a past boyfriend and decided she didn't like it or felt bad about doing it, she doesn't have to do it with you and that doesn't make you second best, it just means she didn't enjoy it and doesn't want to do it again. It gives you the chance to be the better guy, by not being insensitive or pressuring. Her past is her past, unless you want to obsess over meaningless things and threaten the security of your current relationship, just leave it alone. Some day you will have another girlfriend, and this girlfriend will be YOUR sexual baggage which that future girlfriend will have to deal with and not obsess over. Such is the circle of life. I've never forced or pressured her to do any of those things that she doesn't want to do, but merely put the idea on the table, Look at it from another perspective. Suppose if your new bf was a virgin, and he wanted to try/experience a few things once or twice, but you've tried them with your ex, and the only thing left is plain old boring sex, should he move on? (and he is not going to cheat) The social networking stuff is one of those things that needs to be worked out by each individual couple, I think. I wouldn't delete all the pics of my exes out of my hard drives or rip them out of my photo albums, as long as they were normal pics and not pornographic and as long as they were't displayed out in public, because that's part of my history and a record of the live I have lived. I would never demand that my partner delete or throw away things of that nature, either, although I would ask that they be put away and not left out. That's what I've been asking her all along, archive those, and take them out when we are over... oh well she even refuse to untag herself with all her ex on fb. What lead me to this is that, everytime I get to fix her broken laptop, I get to see all the pictures of her ex, they are in a folder on her desktop, lovely isn't it...
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