toucansam84 Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 I've been dating my girlfriend for about three months. Last night, we started to talk about the direction of our relationship. She thought things were moving too fast, and she wanted to go back to the "dating" stage, where we date each other and not get into all the "i love you" stuff. Neither of us have said we loved each other yet, although we both said we were falling in love with each other. Anyways, she wanted to go back to that stage in our relationship, which I agreed to because I want to be with her. What does this mean for my relationship? I also talked to her this morning, and we were able to smooth some things out. She said we were still together and a couple. I even asked her out for Friday night and we still plan on getting together later in the weekend as well. However, I like to worry, so now I'm thinking maybe she wants to break up with me. This is crazy, I know, especially since she said we are still together. I just have a nagging feeling. I know once I see her on Friday, everything will probably go back to the way it was. But how can I make it through the week when I'm so nervous?
refurb Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Easy, stop talking about serious stuff. Go out and have fun. Keep it light. If she brings up something serious, change the topic. She's probably feeling a lot of pressure now that things are getting "serious". Back off and just enjoy each others company. Good luck! RF
phineas Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 I think it means she doesn't want to have sex with you. 3 months is a long time to date without sex.
Philetus Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 She got closer to you, or further along, than she wanted/is comfortable with. There are many reasons why this could have happened. Maybe she's changed her mind about you or about being in love with you, there could be someone else, she could have said she was falling in love with you w/o meaning it because you said it first and now she wants to set you straight. It could be good news or bad news. It's bad if she's having second thoughts about you but it's good if she feels close enough to you to tell you what she wants and trusts you'll stick with her. As an optimist, I'd choose that explanation unless you have evidence that something else is going on. Go back to having fun, living in the now, and let the future take care of itself. Focus on being the best man you can be, someone she'd be crazy NOT to fall in love with. If you're somewhat insecure and need to hear, "I'm falling in love with you" to be happy, this can be tough. Good luck.
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